One in three men experience premature ejaculation according to statistics. Whether you’re 18 or 59, it is a common sexual problem that men face at some point. It can be a stressful not to mention a shameful problem that can lead to a poor quality of sex life. And who wants mediocre, unsatisfactory sex? No one, of course. Fortunately, premature ejaculation is a completely treatable problem.
There’s no need for you and your partner to suffer because you can’t last longer in bed. From behavioral to sexual techniques and oral medications, there is hope for a better sex life. But before we go ahead and discuss the top tips to cure premature ejaculation, let’s take a closer look at the problem.
What is Premature Ejaculation?
Premature ejaculation is defined as uncontrolled ejaculation that may occur before or briefly after sexual intercourse even with minimal penile stimulation.
Whether you or your partner like it or not, the man generally ejaculates within one minute of penetration. For men who suffer from this type of sexual dysfunction, 60 seconds or less is all it takes to orgasm.
And while orgasm is the peak of great sex, the experience this time round often leave you as well as your partner frustrated and unsatisfied. Coming quicker and earlier before you or your partner wants is just a tad anticlimactic.
Causes of Blowing it Early
So what exactly causes premature ejaculation? Science, advanced as it may be, has not identified a definitive and clear cause to the sexual dysfunction. Experts used to think psychological factors are the culprits. Continued research suggests, however, that the problem is more complex. In most cases, premature ejaculation may be caused by a combination and interaction of psychological and biological factors.
One of the top cited psychological causes of premature ejaculation is anxiety. When you’re feeling pressured to perform sexually or just feeling anxious, depressed or guilty due to other personal issues, it can lead to uncontrolled ejaculation. Some doctors believe erectile dysfunction caused by early sexual experiences and relationship problems can also lead to premature ejaculation.
There are also cases when premature ejaculation may be due to biological causes. It can be caused by a hormonal problem or abnormal reflex activity of the ejaculatory system. It may also be caused by some type of thyroid problems, injuries, nerve damage, infection of the prostate and even as a side effect of certain medicines.
Regardless of the cause, it is important to keep in mind that premature ejaculation is a completely treatable problem. Here are some of the things you can do to deal with uncontrolled ejaculation.
Practice makes perfect
One of the reasons why men feel anxious to perform sexually is because of unfamiliarity and infrequent sex. To address the problem, experts recommend having more sex. As simple as that. Don’t beat yourself up when you don’t get it right sometimes. With practice coupled with a little more self-confidence on yourself, you can beat premature ejaculation out of the way.
Use thicker condoms
While a quick fix solution, the use of condoms especially the thicker ones and the ones with benzocaine is believed to help delay ejaculation. As you practice and have more sex, you can keep a stash of these climax control condoms on hand and use it whenever necessary.
Try different sex positions
As you hone your sexual prowess, this is also a great time to try new sex positions. Missionary may be your favorite position but did you know that this is also the position often associated with premature ejaculation? Yes, being on top may feel great but the position also increases the amount of tension on your muscles thereby not very ideal when you’re looking to cure premature ejaculation. Rather than missionary, let the lady take over once in a while. Other positions such as spooning and doggy style that requires less muscular are also worth giving a try.
Incorporate deep breathing
Another way to control the tension that pushes you toward orgasm is to try deep breathing. Doing so will allow the blood and oxygen to circulate throughout the body thereby less muscular tension and greater chances for you to stop premature ejaculation. Like sex, this one takes time to master. You can practice deep breathing out of the bedroom first by deliberately extending your breath as you inhale and exhale. It’s basically like you are meditating. Breathe in for 5 seconds, hold for 3 to 5 seconds then breathe out for 5 seconds. Do it once a day for 5 minutes. As soon as you get the hang of it, you can try deep breathing in the bedroom.
Try behavioral techniques
If the problem continues to persists, there are a number of behavioral techniques that are proven to help deal with early ejaculation.
One is known as the Stop-and-Start Method. The technique will help you recognize the premonitory sensation, that feeling every man feels right before the big orgasm. In this masturbation exercise, you will stimulate arousal doing it gradually then stopping once you sense that you are nearing the point of no return. Give yourself a few moments to calm down then repeat the process. You may have to do the excise for a few weeks, sometimes a few months, until full control is achieved.
Another technique you can try with your partner is called the Squeeze Method. Just like the previous technique, the goal is to stop your tendency to ejaculate too early by letting your partner squeeze the base of the penis once you are on the brink of coming. That’s the strip of skin on the underside of your penis connecting the glans to the shaft. Let the partner do it gently just until you lose the urge to come.
The Bottom Line
There are an array of tips and tricks available when it comes to curing premature ejaculation. Some may work and some may not. There is no one-size-fits-all solution. At the end of the day, it’s all about you knowing your personal situation and trying different techniques that work for you.
In case the problem continues to persist even after trying the aforementioned tips, then it may be wiser to seek professional medical help. It is especially recommended to schedule a private consultation for a more tailored treatment solution to premature ejaculation if you’ve been persistently suffering from the sexual dysfunction in most cases than not.
Lee joined Men’s Health Clinic in 2012 as a Senior Clinical Coordinator. In this capacity, Lee talks first hand with patients about their male sexual health issues and symptoms, reviews their medical histories, and daily serves as a treatment liaison with our doctors and specialists. Lee brings to MHC several years practical experience in the men’s health field, along with a proven professional ability to work closely with our doctors to devise effective solutions to our patients’ men’s sexual health challenges.