Imagine waking up next to a woman who is so incredibly beautiful that you wonder if you are already awake or if you are still dreaming.
Imagine looking into the eyes of a girl who understands you, who shares her life with you and who just gets you.
So many men dream about a happy relationship with the girl of their dreams. So many men lie awake at night thinking about how it could be to have a girlfriend who loves them, who supports them and who is there for them.
The sad truth is that for a lot of them this desire will remain nothing but a dream. Not because they are particularly ugly or because they are not rich enough. No, the real reason why a lot of men have an extremely hard time getting the girlfriend they truly want and truly deserve has everything to do with how they act and how they don’t act.
They do the wrong things and make the wrong decisions while they try to bypass the steps that would make all the difference.
This has to change.
What I want to share with you today is a step-by-step plan to getting a girlfriend. It’s actionable, it’s honest and yes, it requires some emotional investment…but once applied it can lead to an amazing relationship with the woman of your dreams.
1. Be Happy Without Girlfriend
I know, I know. It sounds so cliché. It really does, but it is so true.
Listen: You will NEVER be able to attract the girlfriend you truly want as long as you are not happy being the person you are.
Yes, Hollywood loves to fool you with emotional statements like “I can’t live without you” and “you complete me”, but the truth is that emotionally healthy and happy girls (the ones you want) run away as soon as they meet a guy who isn’t on the same emotional level.
It’s on you if you ignore this advice and call it a stupid cliché, but your future self would appreciate it if you wouldn’t do that.
2. Imagine Your Perfect Girlfriend
Close your eyes and imagine your perfect girlfriend. Seriously, close your eyes now and imagine her.
How does she look?
How does she talk?
How does she move?
How does she feel?
How does she treat you?
How does she treat herself?
Don’t be one of those guys who want “just a girlfriend”. Be the guy who says “I want my girlfriend”. You deserve the girlfriend that you really want and the first step to get her is to imagine her.
If visualization can help professional athletes to win gold medals, it can help you to find out which girl is worth settling for.
Once you have a clear picture of her, it’s time to make a promise.
3. Promise Yourself to Not Settle For Less
Promise that you are going to make a promise? 😉
Promise yourself that you won’t settle for less. Promise yourself that you won’t make the same mistake that so many other men make. Sign it with your blood (in a metaphorical sense) that you won’t end up in a relationship for the following reasons:
1. She has a vagina, so she must be perfect for me
2. She is interested in me, so why not give it a shot
3. I am lonely, so I should make her my girlfriend
Unfortunately, these are the most popular reasons why men end up in relationships. These are also the main reasons why so many men walk around with the look.
4. Learn the Fundamentals
I don’t say that you can’t be successful with women without studying the art of seduction. You can, but it can take a long, long time.
Most dating coaches took the path with the most struggle and resistance by approaching hundreds, If not thousands of women, and by going on countless dates. I did that too, at least until I also attended a coaching program.
Don’t be shy. Don’t hesitate to learn from people who have figured it out the hard way. You can read the dating related articles on this site or on my site and you can shoot me an email whenever you have a question.
Learning the fundamentals of meeting, approaching, attracting and seducing women are immensely important, at least when you don’t want to end up like the guys that I talked about under point three.
5. Cross Borders to Find Her
Do you want the perfect girlfriend?
Are you willing to do whatever it takes to get her?
I never really wanted to be together with one of those nagging German girls, whose main hobbies are complaining, making fun of their boyfriends and talking in such an aggressive way that your ears start to hurt after talking to them for five minutes.
Some of my friends settled for them, which I will never fully understand, but I wanted more. I wanted a feminine, supportive, beautiful and nurturing girlfriend. I was willing to travel the whole world to find her and I eventually found her.
Are you ready to do the same?
You always need to leave your comfort zone to find the girl of your dreams and sometimes you even need to leave the borders of your home country.
There are over 3.5 billion women in the world and the further you are willing to go, the more likely it is that you meet that special someone on the way.
6. Don’t Settle For the First Girl
No matter if you decide to travel the world in search of the perfect girlfriend, or if you ignore my advice and stay in your home country (which is totally fine if you don’t live in a Western country):
Meet as many women as you possibly can and go on as many dates as you can fit in your calendar.
Will the first girl you approach be your soulmate? Probably not.
Will the fifth girl you approach be your soulmate? Highly unlikely.
Will the hundreds girl you approach be your soulmate? You are getting closer.
And please, please, please don’t settle for the first girl who smiles at you, who goes on a date with you or who sleeps with you.
A smile, a date and sex are NOT the best indicators for a happy relationship.
The same values, the same beliefs, similar interest and a similar idea of the future are what really matters.
7. Present Your Authentic Self
The best way to find out if a woman has the same beliefs, similar interests and a similar idea of the future is to show her your authentic self.
I mean, you can pretend to be an extroverted party monster because you want to turn the hot alcoholic party chick into your girlfriend, but is that really what you want as the introverted guy you are?
What many guys don’t realize is that a girl might be fun for a night, but a nightmare for more than a week. Some women are just not good for you.
Due to the fact that it is your goal to find the perfect girlfriend, authenticity is a must. You might be able to pretend to be someone you are not for a day or two, but you won’t be able to do it for a year or two.
And even if you would be able to pretend to be someone you are not, do you really want that?
8. Be Honest With Your Intentions
What do you want from your new girlfriend?
I guess you want a lot of things. You want that she supports you. You want to feel loved and make her feel loved. You want to make her smile. You want to experience unforgettable memories with her.
You want to do all those things, but you also want to touch her. You want to kiss her. You want to sleep with her.
Of course you can hide this intention, but I guarantee you that it will catapult you directly in the friend zone. Sexuality is an important aspect of every relationship, so don’t hide your sexual intent. And make sure that you are sexually compatible.
If you absolutely love blowjobs and she has to puke whenever she comes near your dick, she might not be the perfect girl for you.
9. Find Out if She is the Right One
How do you find out if she is the right one for you, no matter if it’s on a sexual, emotional or intellectual level?
Shut up and listen!
Listen to what she says. Listen to how she talks about certain things. Listen to her non-verbal signs and the way she interacts with you and with others.
Are you into the same things?
Does she have the same beliefs?
Does she treat you and other people with respect?
What does she talk about when she talks about her future?
Those are all important questions that you can answer by showing interest, being patient and by listening to the words she says.
10. Allow Her to Love You
You are 100% sure that she is the right girl for you. She thinks like you, she behaves like you and she even smells like you. Okay, that would be weird, but you get the point.
Now it’s time to open your doors and to allow her to become a part of your life. No, I am not talking about opening your legs and showing her your dong. I am talking about opening the doors to your heart. It sounds gay, but it is incredibly important.
One of the main diseases in the seduction community is the inability to receive love and to give love. Being a player and banging a bunch of chicks you have absolutely no feeling for is one thing, but connecting with a woman on such a deep emotional level that you have to force yourself to make an emotional striptease is another thing.
The best way to cure this disease is by doing two things:
- develop the ability to love yourself
- realize that being in love is not a weakness or disease
Once you allow her to give you love and once you allow yourself to give her the love she desires, she will have tears in her eyes whenever you give her a kiss on the forehead and call her your girlfriend while you do it.