Success with women is going to turn you into a better person in general – someone who often succeeds at everything else that involves other people!
Don’t believe me? Read this through, and you’ll see what I mean.
Because let’s face it – every single guy, except, of course, those who are gay, would like to be exceptionally successful with women.
We’d all love to be able to go up to ANY woman that we like and find attractive, start a conversation with her, spark her interest and attraction, then go on a date with her, seduce her, and see where it all leads.
We would all like that – but not many of us can actually pull it off!
Why is that, exactly?
There are many possible reasons – here are a few of the main ones:
- Some guys, for one reason or another when they were young, just hadn’t developed their social skills enough, so they don’t know how to talk to women.
- Others are constantly plagued with various psychological issues and insecurities like shyness, anxiety, nervousness, fear, etc. which prevent them from approaching girls, or talking to them without looking like a blubbering mess.
- A lot of guys just don’t have the willpower or the motivation that’s necessary to even start the whole process of dating; they sit at home, play video games, watch TV, rarely take any action and never get out of their comfort zones.
- And, many guys just give up because of past failures.
Table of Contents
- #1 Confidence Killer Is…
- Can You Fix It?
- Importance of Mindsets
- Importance of Social Skills
- Building The Right Relationships, Networking —It’s Critical in Business
- Which one are you going to be?
- Here’s What Your Future Could Be
- You’d be unstoppable in any social setting that you can imagine!
- Finally…Your Personality
- By getting off your ass and doing stuff!
#1 Confidence Killer Is…
What’s worse, a significant number of men get frozen in place by that ultimate confidence killer – self-doubt. This will destroy any chances for success with women.
And by the way, self-doubt is one of the most unattractive qualities that any person can possess.
There’s probably nothing worse than not being able to do anything because you constantly doubt yourself and question every decision that you make, always overthinking things to the point of paralysis.
For example, if you’re like most men and you see a beautiful girl who instantly grabs your attention, your natural reaction is to want to approach her and get to know her.
But as you prepare to approach her, hundreds of negative thoughts begin to creep into your mind.
Thoughts like “Will she even like me?”, “She probably has a boyfriend!”, “Why would someone so hot even be interested in me?”, “What do I say to impress her and get her to like me?”, “What if she laughs at everything I say and thinks I’m stupid?”, “What am I even doing here?” and so on and so forth.
Hundreds of negative, self-doubting thoughts pop into your head until you’re effectively paralyzed and end up completely psyching yourself out of approaching and talking to her.
You end up doing nothing.
As a result of that, you may also start thinking that you’re a failure – a good for nothing, worthless loser, and that there must be something wrong with you…
And, to make matters worse, if you do start to think these things, it just reinforces the negative and limiting beliefs that you already have about yourself, creating a vicious circle that prevents you from taking further action and bettering yourself as a person.
Success with women becomes very elusive!
Can You Fix It?
If any of that sounds all too familiar, you’re not alone! Millions of men all over the world experience similar thoughts all the time, which prevent them from taking action, from going up and talking to the girls that they like, and from having fulfilling, serious or casual relationships with them.
Because if you can’t even talk to a girl that you like, how are you ever going to get a girlfriend, a new friend with benefits, or even just someone to spend time with?
So how do you fix all this?
Success with women depends entirely on the following things:
- Your personality, core beliefs, and mindsets.
- The attractive character traits that you embody.
- Your social skills – which determine how you can make women FEEL.
The first one is internal. When it comes to your personality, you develop it simply through living your life. No matter what happens, you’ll always end up with some sort of personality which will be unique to you and you alone.
I’ll explain more below.
When it comes to your mindsets and core beliefs, you can shape them at will, if you know how to do that, and they will determine how secure you are as a person.
They determine what you believe about yourself and others, how you see the world and other people in it, and your views on life in general; all of which will have a huge impact on the general vibe that you put out when being around others.
Importance of Mindsets
The second thing is something you develop solely through action. You acquire attractive character traits through self-improvement, and by getting as much life experience as you can; dealing with various situations and problems, failing, succeeding, and learning from them.
For that, you have to leave the house, get out of your comfort zone, and do stuff because you can’t develop these traits without experiencing life and its various events, both positive and negative ones.
These attractive character traits include things like Confidence, Dominance, Directness and Decisiveness, Self-Reliance, Leadership, Being Sex-Positive, Humor, Passion, Ambition, Authenticity, and many more.
Importance of Social Skills
The last thing that you need – social skills – is something you simply decide to learn, just like with any other skill. And learning social skills is incredibly important because it lets you talk to women in a way that’s engaging, fun, exciting, and interesting, which creates various strong emotions in them.
And, eliciting strong emotions in women is the absolute key to attraction in seduction. In fact, it’s one of the main reasons why women like bad boys so much, and you can learn more about it here
Why Do Women Like Bad Boys?
Think about it – you may have the most pleasant or awesome personality in the world, you may have all the necessary character traits that women like in men – but if you don’t have the social skills to convey all of that, you’ll get nowhere!
Everything else you can think of – looks, money, status, fame, talents, intellect, fitness, connections, and so on, are just BONUSES – none of them is a must!
They’re a great addition to the overall experience that is you, and they increase your chances even further, but they’re by no means required to be very successful with women.
How do I know that? Because there was a time when I had none of these things, and I still got laid like a Rock Star.
So, if you are currently someone who’s not very successful with women and suffers because of it, the answer to how you get this thing handled is simple, although not that easy to accomplish at first glance:
Since all of these things can be learned and developed – you need to decide to improve yourself, then get off your ass and do it.
Life is all about constant self-improvement. You adapt and change, constantly becoming a better version of yourself, or you stagnate, resign yourself to a life of mediocrity, and die having not lived at all.
And, since it’s the only one we have, I doubt you’re looking to waste it.
For some people, it will take a tremendous amount of time and effort to improve themselves to the point where they’re very successful with women, particularly if they’ve been neglecting themselves for a very long time. For others, it will only take a little while, depending on where they’re at now, and how mature they already are.
Just know one thing – it will always take time and effort to achieve something – because nothing that’s worth having in life comes easy.
And what does this have to do with making you a better person?
We live in a world with more than Seven Billion People, and EVERYTHING that you do involves others.
That’s why becoming a mature and well-rounded individual with proper communication skills will automatically make you more successful at everything else – unless, of course, you’re a recluse who lives in a secluded cottage in the middle of nowhere!
Think of it like this:
If you’re afraid to go up to a girl and talk to her, you’re also going to be afraid to do other important things in life that involve other people.
Are you going to be able to confidently walk up to your boss and discuss that big promotion that you know you deserve and have always wanted, and then influence him or her to give it to you?
What if someone confronts you and you have to stand up for yourself, are you going to do that, if you don’t even have the confidence to speak with strangers?
Are you going to be able to make new friends and create professional or other relationships in life that are mutually beneficial, if you’re afraid of meeting new people?
Are you going to not let other people exploit you and prevent you from getting a fair deal, if you’re unable to say no to their unreasonable requests because you can’t deal with confrontation and give up when faced with pressure?
Will you be able to go to a conference or other business gathering, and successfully network with others if you don’t have any social and communication skills?
Building The Right Relationships, Networking —It’s Critical in Business
Who’s going to respect you if you can’t even approach them, confidently introduce yourself and your business, grab their attention, spark their interest in what you do, and influence them to work with you?
People who can clearly and easily express themselves and effortlessly communicate with others are going to succeed in most things that they do in life. And those who can’t – will get left behind and live a life of mediocrity.
There are countless instances where it’s not necessarily the most skilled guy who gets the best job – but the one who is either good friends with the boss or can negotiate the better deal.
Which one are you going to be?
Hopefully, a combination of both!
In any case, business is just one of many things that can benefit from you having great social skills which let you be successful with women.
Everything Becomes Easier!
Think of the possibilities you can have if you’re someone who’s incredibly confident in most social situations.
If you’re someone who’s assertive, confident, masculine, secure, authentic, interesting, and exciting – the sky’s the limit!
People who master success with women – the art of attraction and seduction – are generally going to have a huge leg-up in the real world.
They become largely outcome-independent in their interactions, garnering a lot of respect from most people that they meet.
They know how to control their emotions, and not let their negative thoughts affect their feelings.
They become resilient to all sorts of rejection and understand that it’s a natural part of life; that no matter what you do and who you are – not everyone’s going to like you.
They also become great conversationalists, active listeners, and storytellers who value self-amusement and just having fun. Other people always enjoy spending their time with such a person.
All of this comes from learning success with women.
And, they know that it’s always better to try something, instead of ending up regretting not doing it.
For example – how many times have you put your desires and aspirations on hold?
It is much better to have tried and failed (or even succeed) at something – than to not even have attempted it in the first place.
The biggest regret that old people have on their death beds is not the things that they did, but the things that they DIDN’T do!
In fact, the hockey legend Wayne Gretzky said it best: “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take.”
I hope that I got you to see the enormous potential of learning social skills and developing yourself as a person.
Now it’s all up to you if you want to learn these essential skills and develop yourself, or not.
Here’s What Your Future Could Be
Imagine that one day, you started learning all of this and decided to get your shit together.
You got your body language in order, developed strong and steady eye contact, an expressive voice tonality, along with a proper, powerful posture. You then dealt with your various self-esteem issues and insecurities, effectively destroying your shyness, approach anxiety, fear of rejection, and self-doubt.
And, through practice, you learned all of the necessary communication and social skills to become a great conversationalist. Skills like story and joke telling, teasing, flirting, comedic timing, grabbing interest and keeping it, being clear and concise, listening, problem-solving and decision making, and other important things for both success with women and business relationships.
A future like that is not just a dream – because me, and countless other men who spent the necessary time and effort are already living like this – and most of us started from the absolute bottom!
No one is born with all of these things – everyone has to develop them as they go along. Either naturally, with help, through learning, or through a tremendous amount of effort.
Fact is, if you decide to change, and spend the necessary amount of time and effort to do it – that future could be yours as well.
And, I think that there’s no better place to start than with the Menprovement Chat, where you’ll find a community of like-minded individuals who want to better themselves as people, and who focus on developing various useful skills and attractive character traits that will make them successful in life, and with other people in general. You’ll find many people there, as well as lots of different self-improvement coaches, from various walks of life, who are there not just to teach others, but to learn as well!
I’m also a member of that community, and I’ve already gotten a ton of value from a Business Coach, and a Style Coach. You can go there and message me personally with your questions about dating and relationships – and I will answer them as time permits!
The final thing I’m going to touch on is Personality.
If we focus on people in general, then we can define personality in terms of our individual differences – that is, the range of different styles of thinking, feeling and acting.
There’s no one right personality, and almost any type can be attractive.
Your fully developed version can be one that has success with women.
So the main point to remember here is just to try and develop a well-rounded and balanced one that is generally considered amicable and pleasant.
However, when most people read something like this, they say “Well, it’s easy for you to say that I should develop my personality, but how do I actually DO that?”
Well, remember when I said that you will always naturally develop a personality even if you just sit at home and do nothing? However, if you do that, your personality will be bland, boring, and more often than not, pretty nasty.
So, the answer is – go and actively experience life!
“But how do you experience life?”
By getting off your ass and doing stuff!
By getting out of your comfort zone – going outside and experiencing what the world has to offer:
- Go travel around the world, or at least around your country if you can.
- Join some class to learn a new skill.
- Take up a hobby that you enjoy and many other people like.
- Practice a team sport.
- Play competitive games.
- Start getting fit by joining a gym or going outdoors.
- And much, much more
How to Expand Your Comfort Zone
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All these things have one thing in common – they are great opportunities to meet other people.
And that’s the whole point – you have to meet and talk to new people daily, in order to get as much experience from as many different social situations and interactions with others as you can.
Then you fail a lot, succeed a lot, get as many reference points and experience as you can, and learn from it all.
This will also help you develop core confidence – and it will never go away because it will be backed by extensive experience from everything that you did.
After a while of that, as if by magic – you’ll inexplicably end up being a more interesting, fun, exciting and valuable person in general who other people will like to hang around with.
A person who has no trouble talking to women and other people.
That said, this journey must start with you and you alone – because the goal is to go and meet new people regularly, and no one but you can force you to go outside and meet them.
It all starts with action – and also, by having a solid and reliable plan that actually works!
I can help you with creating and developing that plan.