When you first enter a relationship, you may naturally assume that it will consist of a man and a woman spending nearly every waking moment together, going out on dates, having a lot of sex and potentially even getting married in the future. After all, a lot of people have been raised on the notions that there is a perfect partner waiting for us out there. We just need to be patient and look forward to when we actually get the chance to meet them. However, this is not always how it works in real life. Whilst some of us are very lucky to have found their soulmate, others may have decided to find love through less traditional methods. If you are currently looking for your sweetheart, why not consider one of these different couplings? You may find that they suit you more than just a simply monogamous relationship.
Just imagine finding a relationship where you are completely free to explore as many romantic and sexual partners as you want. You can date people of the same gender, meet people at the bar and take them home for a rendezvous, you can even consider whether or not you would be interested in partaking in a threesome. If you are intrigued by this, then the idea of a Polyamorous relationship may be just the sort of thing you have been looking for.
When it comes to dating, most people want someone who is perfect; a good lover, listener, caregiver, partner and friend. However, to try and find someone who has all these traits is impossible. No one is perfect and it would be unfair to try and change them into the sort of person you are looking for. As Sara Lynn Michener, a polyamorous writer from MamaM!a, has joked, it could take at least “three or four men to make one boyfriend these days.”
So instead of looking for the perfect person, why not try indulging in different people? A poly-amorous relationship presents the opportunity to meet a number of new people and get to know them. A poly-amorous affair is a truly passionate one where you can not only receive a new lover, but a friend and support line if you are ever in trouble. In addition to this, if you are not prone to jealousy, then you may even be able to fulfill a number of dirtier fantasies and raise your self-esteem and confidence. No longer do you have to be dependent on a certain person, but instead seek advice and guidance from a whole range of people.
Whilst Poly-amorous relationships can be extremely fulfilling, please keep in mind that they can be quite difficult to maintain. If you have multiple relationships at a time, say 4 or 5, you may struggle to organise your schedule to satisfy all the needs of your different partners. Worse still, if they start to feel neglected then you may find yourself falling into a toxic relationship. So be sure only have as many partners as you are comfortable with balancing. Be sure to take their feelings into account when it comes to how they are feeling about your other relationships. Whilst they should not guilt you into leaving your other partners, if you find yourself feeling jealous or worried that they may leave you over it, then you will need to make a decision on how your romantic lifestyle will continue to function.
If you are looking to have one primary partner but still see other people, then you may want to also consider whether or not an Open Relationship may suit your lifestyle. There can be nothing better than finding a partner who you ultimately trust and feel safe around. However, you may find that after a while you may get sexually frustrated and may want to meet new people. If you do not want your relationship to die, then opening it up and making it a “non-monogamous” relationship could potentially make it stronger.
If you have no secrets about who you sleep with, then this could actually open up the communication between you and your partner. For instance, if you talk to your partner about your boundaries, who you are having sex with and why, then this shows that you have a respect for your partner and want them to still be involved in your life. If your partner has a lesser sex driver than you, this can also take the pressure off them to perform. Instead you can simply indulge in a happy romantic relationship and keep your flame burning through romantic meals and dates out to the best entertainment areas in your town.
Keep in mind that if you intend to have an open relationship, you must be entirely honest to your partner about it. If your partner does not approve of it or are left feeling uncomfortable or jealous of your sexual encounters, this is a sign that an open relationship is not helping you or your partner. Whilst you may not feel emotionally ready to fully commit yourself to your partner, your partner may see this as a betrayal and may want to end the relationship at the very suggestion of it. So be careful and only suggest it if you think your partner will like the idea. After all, one suggestion may change how your partner thinks you feel about your relationship!
Whilst romantic relationships may work for some people, for others it can be more of a burden than a pleasure. Everyone yearns for the company of others, but not at the expense of their emotional health or time. For some, the idea of pillow-talk is a horrifying concept, as they would prefer to sexually satisfy themselves before returning to their daily schedule. Sexual desire is a need that must be taken care of or else it can interrupt a daily schedule. Some men solely want a sexual relationship with a woman because of their busy work schedules and professional commitments, whilst others may not have the confidence needed to return to the dating scene, due to a nasty divorce or toxic relationship.
This is where the idea of forming a ‘work-relationship’ with an escort can provide a fantastic sexual release, without having to form an emotional relationship with someone who you may hurt in the future, due to any sexual or romantic in-differences.
initially you may feel a little shocked at the idea of the suggestion of hiring an escort. But an escort is not a prostitute. An Escort is a high-class woman who, as Bubbles Escorts have said, is “well dressed and willing and happy to accommodate all of your reasonable desires.” Whilst these desires can be sexual, though this depends on the Companion herself and what business acronyms she is willing to market, many clients will simply hire her out for a date to a fancy restaurant or to see a theatre production.
You must remember that an escort is not in replacement of a partner, but can provide the confidence that you may need in order to push yourself back into the dating scene. Your Companion will always ask you about what you want and what will make you feel satisfied. She will even just be happy to talk about any problems that may be playing on your mind. Whilst this may make your encounter a sort of a pseudo-relationship, if you are lonely or feeling depressed, then she is the perfect companion in order to make yourself feel better.
If you are feeling unconfident in the bedroom, then your companion is also the perfect playmate in order to try and work up your self-esteem. You do not need to be the best mate and you do not need to feel any strain of trying to impress your companion. Instead, you can simply relax and enjoy yourself. Your escort will never judge you and, instead, will be there to listen to you and try and help raise your confidence throughout the night.
Whilst this suggestion may not be for everyone, if you are looking to meet someone new, as well as find a new sexual partner without any emotional ties, then you may want to do more research on what an escort can truly provide you both emotionally and sexually.
“Friends with Benefits”
Forming a sexual relationship with one of your friends can be a liberating experience, as it can allow you the opportunity to indulge in some sexual fun with someone you have a connection with, but also cut out any of the romantic ties that are usually associated with a relationship. However, keep in mind that “Friends with Benefits” (FWB) does require a lot more emotional commitment in order to keep both partners,whether men or women, happy with the arrangement.
As Dr Emily Morse has said, on her podcast Sex with Emily “whenever you’re deciding the rules in a FWB relationship, it’s best to be as transparent as possible, open to compromises, and never be judgmental or make the conversation one-sided.” After all, if you indulge in a FWB relationship and mistake it for a no-strings attached encounter, then you may feel the sting of your partner gaining feelings for you. This encounter is meant to have no emotional stigma attached to it and is solely for the sex. If this does happen, be sure to let them down extremely gently, however, if you want to avoid this all together then be sure to make your feelings known to them before you become intimate with them.
With that said, a FWB is a fantastic way of way of expressing your feelings for a special friend. Whether you both just need a hookup or you want to show how strong your level of trust is, your best friend may soon also be your greatest confidant, both sexually and emotionally.
Of course, not all relationships have to involve sex. If you find yourself lacking an interested in the physical flesh, for neither men or women, then you may be an asexual. For an asexual, a romance is not about being physically intimate with another person, but, as Simone, an asexual woman from the UK, described in her interview with The Cosmopolitan, but it is more about “security and practicality.”Not all asexual people are the same, but may only require a minimum of “a lot like kissing and cuddling and other romantic affectionate physical gestures” to show their partners that they care. In fact, most asexual partners try to work out a “compromise” with their partner by either occasionally engaging in sexual behaviour, or even through “pseudosexual behaviour”, for example cuddling, in order to see what each partner potentially finds comfortable.
If you are interested in this sort of relationship, then do not be afraid to tell your partner what you are comfortable with in regards to your sexuality. There is nothing to be embarrassed about when it comes to how comfortable you feel about romantic intimacy. The idea that sexual prowess is linked to masculinity is an old stereotype, and one that is extremely damaging when it comes to a man’s confidence, self-esteem and ultimately how he views his relationship.
If your relationship makes you happy, and is not hurting anyone else in the process, then you should stick to it. Be open and honest to your partner about your emotions and always let them know how they can make you feel comfortable. You can even suggest romantic ideas that you and your partner can undertake together, such as a picnic in the park or perhaps a coffee in a quirky cafe, in order to make you feel like you are making the most of your time together. A relationship does not need to be based on sex. Yes, it can bring couples closer together, but ultimately, if you are happy in each other’s company then you clearly belong together.
Ultimately, a relationship is built on a foundation of trust and respect. Whilst your own relationship status may not be a traditionally monogamous one, you still need to have the confidence and respect for both you and your partner/s to know what you want. It is perfectly reasonable to experiment with your sexuality and intimate relationship, but remember to be considerate and keep your partners aware of your experimentation. The last thing you would want to do is hurt them. The more relationships you try out, the more likely you will find one that fits your lifestyle and endorses your feelings of happiness and sexual and romantic contentment.