Lots of men and women want to enter into relationships. We want to find a partner that excites and intrigues us, and complements us best. Instinctively, we are looking for a missing piece of our puzzles. Some call that person “your other half.” However, in reality, we are seeking our other whole. What we should be seeking is an individual of completeness, someone who doesn’t need validation from us or anyone else.
Perhaps, as a guy, you feel like you are coming up short. Maybe the women you end up with are kind of average. Maybe the women you end up with are clingy. Maybe, try hard as you may, the woman you truly want is unresponsive to your advances.
Don’t settle for a woman that doesn’t reflect your true potential as a man.
Additionally, to become your best self and improve your love life, you need to look outside of generic suggestions of how to find the right woman for you. You read self-help articles that tell you the best dating apps for men, how to pick up women at bars, and the right lines to use to pique a female’s interest. These resources are great, but they are partially one sided.
In order to attract outstanding females, you need to implement more than these strategies. You need to feel complete. We enter into the most satisfying relationships when we create a “big picture life.” A life in which we are active, proactive, and becoming our Higher Self.
Here are six imperative outlets that will help you reach your full potential as a man, and hence, improve your dating life:
6 Imperative Outlets That Will Enrich Your Dating Life
1) Authentic Living
What is authentic living? It is living as your true self, in total comfort and acceptance. Your attitude is one that seeks connections with others, but you are partially detached from being liked. You don’t let other people’s opinions bother you. Men who live authentically have figured out who they are, decided who they would like to become, and show themselves appreciation on their journey of self-empowerment.
If you would like to be with a woman who is physically fit, you need to make fitness a priority. And if you want to have one of those personal-training dates with your next girlfriend, start living as if and create your workout-plan in advance.
Start creating a fitness regimen or enhance your current one, so the right yogi/crossfit-junkie/hiking-fanatic/fitness girl will start thinking, “Oh hey, we have so much in common.” Women are attracted to men who take care of their bodies, but aside from what all of us will think, do it for your own personal betterment.
Your formal education may be over, but that doesn’t mean you stop learning. Self-education is taking initiative of your learning experience. Many of you will find that learning is much sweeter when it is not obligatory.
Set self-education goals such as reading two books each month, tuning into entrepreneurship or self-improvement podcasts and YouTube channels, and reading articles about enrichment topics that interest you. Self-education can even consist of projects you work on outside of work and your social life.
Maybe you decide to start a fitness or traveling blog. Maybe you start a business venture on the side. Maybe you decide to take an acting or improv class. Whatever you do, make sure you’re learning.
Mentorship is key in all areas of life. Sometimes our mentors will appear in our lives at the perfect time with no effort whatsoever on our part, while other times, we need to seek them out. When you meet someone who emulates the qualities you would like to possess- whether it’s being a great communicator with females, having entrepreneurial skills in your field, or being able to lift 100 pounds more- establish a connection. A Polish proverb states, “We begin to resemble the company we keep.” Bond with your mentor and pick his brain on how he got to where he is today.
Independence itself might seem like a broad outlet, however, it has multiple important components in attracting the right female to you. Independence does not necessarily mean you’re a lone wolf or an aloof enigma with women. Instead, you are complete without a relationship, and simply seek one to enhance your life.
The woman of your dreams is the next piece of pie on your agenda. Most men I talk to tell me their number one deal-breaker is a clingy female. Some men have not mentioned any other deal-breakers to me at all. Lots of you describe your ideal relationship as one in which neither partner loses their sense of self. You are awesome in your life, she is awesome in her life, and you come together for an even more awesome and beautiful life.
If you want to be with an independent woman, you need to possess three imperative qualities. These qualities are: confidence, emotional security, and skills in the pursuit of a female of interest. You need to know how to communicate with her and create banter.
When you visualize your ideal woman, whoever she may be, you’re probably starting to realize that this kind of woman has options. Lots of men will try to win her attention, and she may even be selective with dating partners. Working on cultivating these three imperative qualities of independence will assist you in seeing this quality mirrored in your dating life.
6) Active Social Life
If you haven’t noticed, females will be very interested in what your social life is like before you meet them. You may think women want to take over and steal you from your friends, but this usually isn’t true.
Socially adjusted females will want to be included in your activities with friends. When I’m dating a new guy, I’m very curious about what his friends are like, and want to get to know them. Remember, our friendships are reflections of us and what we see in ourselves!
Keeping this in mind, having an active social life is sexy and having friends who also seek self-improvement just like you is even sexier. It needs to be said that while having friends who are stuck in life is not a total reflection of you, women will pick up on it. We’ll wonder, “Is that who he really is underneath the facade he shows me?”
To increase your dating odds while you are single, create plans with friends and fill your free time with social activity. If you look at finding a meaningful relationship like putting together a business plan, you will draw a comparison between pinpointing specific steps on how you will achieve this goal.
Most of the time, we don’t expect to enter into relationships, and you meet someone you really like at random. But sometimes months go by after a breakup… And you are still single because you haven’t made changes in your plan of action. Social activity is key in your action plan to enrich your life and appeal to women. Always remember that the right woman will accept your time with the guys.
The greatest relationship advice inspired by The Law of Attraction is that we need to become what we are trying to attract. If you want a woman who greatly cares for others, be a humanitarian. If you want a woman who will make you laugh, make her laugh. If you want your bae to entice you in all ways, entice her in all ways.
This is why living a “big picture life,” a life in which we are complete, is imperative in attracting your ideal dating partner. Dedicating ourselves becoming the best we can be will bring the right opportunities to us in all areas of life.