We have all come across them, that guy at the party who people tend to gravitate to; Danny, from sales that everyone seems to hang onto his every word, and even that funny looking guy at the gym who holds court by the water fountain. They have something about them that seems to make them more interesting and compelling to be around than the average person…
Everywhere we look there seem to be these people who are inherently more interesting than us, people who always have the right thing, or at least a semi decent thing to say, at any given moment. It’s easy to shrug your shoulders and take it for just one of those things, that you’ve been dealt that pack of cards and you just need to suck it up and get on with it.
That is not the case though. Being interesting isn’t something you are born with per se. It is nothing to do with looks, charm, wit or even confidence. It is something that every single one of us can do something about to improve. And actually in doing it, it can be a hell of a lot of fun.
If we put it another way, how to be more well-rounded, it doesn’t seem so daunting, but basically they are one and the same thing. We can’t guarantee that at the end of this article you will be the life and soul of the party, but by putting all, or at least some of these measures in place in your life, you will certainly be going some way to being someone people from both sexes want to be around.
No matter how hard we try, it is sometimes impossible not to get stuck in a rut in our lives, even if that rut is somewhere that is a fairly OK place to be. Even the hardest worker can make time every week to start doing a hobby.
It doesn’t have to be something earth shattering, there are literally hundreds of ones to turn your hand to, from something that’s been a burning desire since you were young and you’ve never had the time, inclination – or balls, to do, to just some random activity that looks like it may be a cool thing to do. Straight away, it will open up new worlds for you, will more than likely bring you into contact with new people, new conversations, and will add another string to your bow.
The best, and probably the most fun way to broaden your mind and gain new insights and experiences is to travel. Real travel, not just a fortnight on a beach reading Grisham. Get yourself off the beaten track, explore places that you can barely point to on a map. By seeing weird and wonderful places, breathing in different cultures and traditions your perspective on life will change, and you will have a whole host of experiences, advice and anecdotes to regale your friends and colleagues with.
You can also expand your mind without leaving the house. Learning new information, is not only a great way to make you a more interesting person to be with, it is also something that we all should be doing anyway. And nowadays it is so easy, you don’t even have to go to the trouble of buying a book and ploughing through it.
Podcasts have to be one of the best inventions of the modern age. They bring some of the most knowledgeable and interesting people on the planet straight to you –for free. Check some of the latest ones specifically for men, and try to mix it up between different genres. Suddenly that half an hour on the treadmill is the equivalent of going to the library.
Try an Experiment
You don’t want to be known as “that guy who only ate onions for a week”, but something that is an enjoyable and manageable thing to do, as well as something that would be useful for your peers can be a very worthwhile exercise. Cook a brand new meal every night for a fortnight/month; try a different route to work every day; live without alcohol for a month – you decide.
The two most important things to remember with all of these, is that first and foremost they should be enjoyable and worthwhile pursuits to do, and the fact that you become a more interesting person as a result is merely a happy consequence. Secondly, when you are armed with all of these nuggets of incredible insights, facts and experiences, be careful how you use them.
Don’t become the bore who never shuts up about his encounter with a llama. Use them when needed and sparingly, but the more you have in your back pocket, the less you will find you will be scratching around for something interesting to say when Debbie from accounts asks what you got up to at the weekend.
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