Do you have a heart?

I bet you do, but do you also listen to it?

Most men don’t. In fact, most men do everything in their power to ignore the signs, the advice and the guidance that their heart tires to give them.

Listening to your heart is seen as unmanly and even talking about it is considered as weird and awkward. Chances are high that you read the question “do you have a heart?” and that you thought to yourself:


Unfortunately, we men are so brainwashed by the idea that we have to be indestructible alpha males without feelings that we unlearned to listen to our feelings. We are caught up in the idea that our feelings are the expression of our weaknesses.

It’s sad but that’s how it is. What I want to do with this article is to invite you to challenge this unhealthy concept of manliness. I want you to reconnect with your heart and to start listening to it.

Why do I want that?

Not because I want to transform you into a big crybaby, but because I want you to live the life of your dreams. Yes, the reason why I ask you to listen to your heart is because it’s the only way to attract the relationships and the life you really want.

A man who listens to his heart and who follows its guidance is a fulfilled man who knows where he is going and why he is going in this direction.

A man who refuses to listen to his heart is a man who condemns himself to a life of suffering…

Your Heart Suffers When You Suppress Its Beat 

A couple of years ago I was the perfect German citizen. I embodied the principles that the people in my home country are so famous for. I was doing what I was told, I was always playing it safe and there was not one day that I questioned my lifestyle. I was an obedient and efficient citizen who did the same things as everyone else.

Oh, did I forget to mention that I was freaking miserable?

I was working a job that I hated. People told me that nobody likes their job and that this is totally normal. I asked them why they don’t quit and search a job they actually like. They just looked at me and said that YOU CAN’T do that.

I was miserable in my relationship. Other men told me that no relationship is perfect and that their girlfriends also nag them all day long. I asked them why they don’t end the relationship and search a woman who treats them with respect. They just looked at me and said that YOU CAN’T do that.

Yes you can!

If you listen to your heart you can do those things, but if you ignore the beating of your heart you will never reach the level of consciousness to even think about an alternative.

The people who are too stubborn to listen to their heart are the ones who say things like “stop dreaming” or “come on, be realistic”.

That’s exactly what people told me 2 years ago when I enthusiastically told them about my plan to seduce women all over the world, to work as a dating coach and to eventually find a woman who loves me unconditionally.

Today I live this life and guess who is still walking around suffering in jobs they hate and in relationships that are more toxic than the water around Fukushima?

The exact same people who told me that I have to be realistic and who laughed at me when I told them that I am going to listen to my heart.

Your Heart Shows You the Way

When I finally worked on something that I was proud of and when I finally dated the feminine women that I always dreamed of I asked myself one simple question:

Why didn’t I do this a lot sooner?

Now that I am writing these lines to you it is quite hard for me to understand why I spent over 1000 days in jobs that I hated and in a relationship that was going nowhere.

Seriously, if I could turn back the time I would walk up to my young self, scream at him and ram my knee into his balls, in the hope that this blind motherfucker finally wakes up.

So why did I spent over 1000 days living a life that was not really my life?

I did it because I ignored the beat of my heart. I was one of those stubborn men who thought that listening to your heart is gay. I was dumb, ignorant and I paid the price for it.

In case you are also trapped in a situation that does not deserve the stamp with the imprint “dream life”, you are probably as dumb and ignorant as I was. I don’t want to offend you, but that’s how it is.

You can of course continue to fool yourself by saying that you don’t know what life you want to live, but when you are really honest you know exactly what you want. Your heart is telling you every single day.

What do you feel when you think about your current job?

What do you feel when you think about your dream job?

What do you feel when you think about your current girlfriend?

What do you feel when you think about the woman of your dreams?

You see, the feeling is there. You just have to listen to it.

Your heart guides you. Follow its guidance.

You Can Only Attract Who You Are 

Who do you become when you follow your heart?

Nope, you won’t become a gay pussy who cries all day, even if that’s what other men tell you.

You become a man who follows his path, his mission and his purpose. You become happier and you finally feel this incredible feeling of fulfillment that you have never felt before.

You become a fulfilled man who is able to attract great opportunities and amazing relationships.

How do I know that?

Well, because I’ve been through it and I experienced it firsthand.

I know that the principle that you can only attract who you are is true and I also know that you have basically two choices that lead to two different outcomes.

Choice #1:

You can continue to believe that listening to your heart is gay and you can continue to live a life of quiet desperation. That’s okay. It’s your choice. Just be aware that you will only attract the things and people that match this energy level.

Enjoy your toxic relationships!

Choice #2:

You can start listening to your heart and you can change the direction your life is going. That’s even better. It’s your choice. Just be aware that you will attract some really amazing things and people.

Enjoy your healthy relationships!

You Can’t Ignore the Beat of Your Heart Forever

I get emails from guys who are in their twenties who thank me for changing their lives.

I also get emails from guys who are in their forties who thank me for changing their lives.

Where is the difference between the guys in their twenties and the guys in their forties?

Despite the popular belief that there is a set point in time when you are too old for change, they both have all the potential in the world. The guys in their twenties and the guys in their forties both have the potential to attract the women and the life of their dreams.

It might be a bit harder for the guy in his forties than for the guy in his twenties, but the potential is definitely there. The big difference, however, is that the guy in his forties spend too many years ignoring the beat of his heart.

What most men who try to suppress their inner voice don’t realize is that the point of no return is inevitable. The point will come when the beating of your heart is so loud that you simply can’t ignore it anymore.

For some men this point comes on their deathbed. I hope you listen to it sooner.

In Conclusion

Listening to your heart is neither gay, nor a sign of weakness. It is the fastest way out of misery. Listening to your heart is the only way to live a fulfilled life. Unfortunately, most men ignore the beat that has the power to change the direction of their lives.

You can of course try to suppress the beating of your heart, but I promise you that this will make you more and more miserable. You can only attract who you are and when you are a miserable piece of shit, you won’t be able to attract the relationships that you truly want.

Even when you try to suppress the voice that tells you whether you are on the right or the wrong path, you will sooner or later reach a point where you won’t be able to suppress it anymore. You can’t ignore the beat of your heart forever. Sooner or later, you have to make a decision and the longer you wait, the harder the decision.


  1. Hey Sebastian, great post. More and more guys are beginning to follow their intuition when it’s coming to their job, the significant other, and their overall life. I’m 36. When I was going through school their was definitely a format to how life was suppose to go. Graduate high school, go to college, and then get a decent job; that was the blueprint. Now, opportunities to do things outside the norm are springing up all over the place. Our parents, although encouraging, didn’t really understand this change. Now, you have the younger generations following their hearts and their succeeding!! This hasn’t gone unnoticed and the old generations are realizing they aren’t too old to adapt.


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