Happiness is a choice.
If you already hate me for what I just said, chances are high that you made the conscious choice to be miserable. You don’t realize it yet, and you probably still deny the fact that it is you who makes yourself miserable, but you and you alone are responsible for your emotional state.
During the past year you made a choice, respectively a lot of choices, which directly or indirectly lead this exact day. Every day you made choices that either led you on a path towards happiness or on a path towards misery.
I know how hard it is to accept the uncomfortable truth that you are responsible for your own happiness. I know how hard it is to not be able to blame your parents, the government and thousands of other external influences that you love to blame.
Look, happiness and misery are two different outcomes that are based on two different choices. You can either take action in a direction that helps you to become the man you want to be, or you can take action in a direction that forces you to stagnate.
Maybe you didn’t take any action at all.
Due to the fact that I am a dating coach I want to illustrate what I mean by giving you a simple example:
Let’s say you broke up with your ex-girlfriend in January 2015 and you are alone and notoriously underfucked in March 2015. If you tell me today that your dating life is still miserable, then you made the conscious choice to NOT study the art of seduction, to NOT put that advice into practice, to NOT get rejected over and over again until you succeed and ultimately you made the choice to NOT date incredibly beautiful women.
You see, happiness is a choice and in the following lines I want to share 15 simple choices with you that have the power to make the year 2016 the happiest year you have ever had.
1. See 2015 as the Foundation for 2016
No matter how many cat videos you watched in the year 2015 and no matter how much time you wasted jerking off to porn movies, I am sure that you have learned something.
You have developed a genuine interest in self-improvement by reading articles on this website. Thereby, you have discovered a few secrets that helped you to improve your sleep, your testosterone level or your concentration.
Heck, even if the only thing you have learned is that cat videos and porn movies are poison for your productivity, this knowledge can be the foundation for a successful year 2016.
2. Be Grateful For What You Already Have
I know, I know. Your job sucks, your girlfriend beats the crap out of you and your goldfish Jimmy doesn’t talk to you anymore. Life can be hard, but if you have a working internet connection and enough to eat for the next 48 hours you are better off than the majority of the people on this planet.
If you were born in a Western country and you are still complaining about life, you are complaining on a very high level. I admit it. There are days when I also moan and complain about my situation. There are days when I scream at my laptop and ask myself why the world is so mean to me.
These are the days when I think about the starving street children who I saw in the Philippines who had to beg all day long and to sleep in houses that don’t deserve that name. No matter how miserable you are in your job or your relationship, you can change your situation.
Others don’t have this privilege.
3. Don’t Worry About Things You Can’t Change
I am from Germany and if there is one thing that we Germans are masters at, it is worrying. We worry about everything. Maybe that’s why most Germans run around as if the world could end every moment.
Don’t worry, be happy.
The weather sucks. Don’t worry about it. You can’t change it and it will get better. Your boss is an asshole. Don’t worry about him. You can’t change him and you will find another job.
Worrying about things you can’t change leads to headache and unnecessary stress. There are other things that deserve your attention, your energy and your brain power.
Don’t waste your time on shit you can’t control.
4. Change the Things You Can Change
While it is stupid to worry about the things you can’t change, it is also stupid to not change the things that you can change. You might not be able to change the mood of your boss. Only his cheating wife is able to do that. However, you are able to change your situation, to apply for another job and to say “goodbye” to him.
There are a lot of things that you can change and that you should change. One of the biggest mistakes that so many men make is that they accept the situation they are in. The helpless attempt to accept something unacceptable can only lead to misery.
Forget about accepting the unacceptable. 2016 will be a year of change. Even if you can’t change your whole life in one day, you can use every day for small changes. By the end of the year you will be proud of what you have accomplished.
5. Stop Wasting Your Time with Virtual Girls
Do you know what you should do in in the year 2016?
You should stop watching other people having sex while you are rubbing your dick until it burns. You should stop masturbating to virtual women before you crawl to bed empty and all alone.
Stop wasting your time with virtual women. Your orgasm is pleasurable, but the remaining 23 hours and 59 minutes of the day won’t feel very pleasurable and rewarding. You can read about the reasons for this phenomenon in this article.
6. Spend Your Time with Real Women
Spending your time with real women can be extremely satisfying and rewarding. Yes, even the remaining 23 hours and 59 minutes that you don’t have an orgasm. If the last time you went on a date was before the first black president was elected, you should write “spend time with real women” on your to-do list for 2016.
Talking to real women is fun. Connecting with real women is an incredibly rewarding feeling. Cuddling, hugging and kissing real women can make you happy. Sleeping with real women can make you even happier.
It is your decision if you waste your time with cat videos or if you spend your time getting better with women. I think you know exactly what you have to do in order to replace the virtual women with real women.
7. Have Sex, a Lot of It
Now that I already talk about spending your time with real women, it would be wrong to not mention one of the biggest happiness boosters that you can get for free.
Sex is definitely one activity that you should spend more time on in the year 2016. There are countless scientific studies that confirm that having sex makes you happy and that people who have a lot of sex are happier than people who don’t.
You clicked on this article because you want to be happy, right?
Then kiss, bite and bang until the ceiling comes down!
8. Treasure Your Relationships
Have you treated your loved ones the way they deserve to be treated by you?
That’s an important question that every man should ask himself. This question gets even more important on the last day of the year. Why? Because we usually spend this day with our loved ones and if we don’t, it is for a reason.
Maybe you didn’t spend a lot of time with your friends and family, which motivated them to forget you when they wrote down all the people they want to invite to their New Year’s Eve party.
Don’t be sad about it and don’t be angry at them. You can still change your behavior and become the person they think about first when it comes to the invitations for next year’s New Year’s Eve party.
Treasure your relationships. Don’t allow your busy schedule to destroy relationships with people you’ve known since your childhood. Human beings are social being. We need relationships to survive and thrive.
9. Focus on Connections Instead of Talking
Thanks to our generation of mindless social media zombies we are used to chat, text and talk to everyone. We are so confused that we mistake Facebook friends with real friends.
Stop that shit. Stop talking without any meaning and depth. Instead, focus on deep conversations that allow you to understand the person you talk to and to connect with him or her.
A real connection leads to a real friendship, while a superficial conversation only leads to a Facebook friendship. Deep down you know which kind of friendships make you happy.
10. Invest Your Money, Don’t Waste It
Do you want to know how a lot of money can make you extremely miserable?
It’s every easy. All you have to do is to waste all your money on material possessions and to get angry when they break. The tricky thing is that this inevitably happens, because new toys, such as a sports car or the latest smartphones are designed in a way that they break sooner or later.
Instead of wasting your money on expensive toys that have to be replaced by even more expensive toys right after the next facelift or relaunch, you should invest your money in yourself.
Invest your money in health by eating high quality food. Invest your money in education by taking classes. Invest your money in your personal development by buying courses and books.
Investing leads to happiness. Wasting leads to debt, broken promises and frustration.
11. Set High but Realistic Goals
People who set goals and achieve them are happier than people who don’t set goals and don’t achieve anything.
This is a scientifically proven fact.
Goal setting is the first step to goal achievement. Once you have set yourself a goal, you know in which direction you want to go. You can now visualize your future.
The tricky thing about goal setting is that you can do it wrong. A goal that is too simple to achieve can prevent you from living out your full potential and a goal that is too high can lead to a lot of frustration.
Set high but realistic goals and the moment you achieve them will be a moment of pure joy.
12. Increase Your Attractiveness
Everyone wants to be attractive, but nearly nobody wants to do anything to become attractive.
Every week I get emails from guys who ask me if they will ever get a girlfriend, even though they are terribly overweight. Of course I give them tips that can actually get them laid, even if they look like a sumo wrestler, but at the same time I ask them a simple question:
Why the hell don’t you lose weight?
Even if I could date a supermodel I wouldn’t feel comfortable in my own skin if I couldn’t see my dick under my belly.
Do you feel unattractive because you are overweight?
Do something about it!
Go to a gym and get on that fucking treadmill until you look the way you want to look. It will be hard, but it will make you happy as hell.
13. Read, Learn, Apply
We all have problems but none of us has a problem that nobody else has ever had. The incredible thing about this day and age is that we have something that is called the internet. And we have something that is called Amazon.
When you combine those two phenomena you have access to millions and gazillions of books that people have written who found a solution to the exact problem that you have.
Use their knowledge!
Read, learn and apply.
Once you follow this simple three step formula, your unsolvable problems can suddenly be solved in a heartbeat. A life without problems is a life in happiness.
14. Build a Boat Before You Jump in the Ocean
Do you want to quit your job? Do you want to start a business? Do you want to leave the country?
Great, I and a lot of people wanted and still want the same and there are only two reasons why so many people fail doing it:
1. They never jump in the cold water.
2. They jump in the cold water without a boat.
If you want to cross the ocean without a boat, you will freeze to death or drown after a few miles. In other words, big plans require a solid preparation and foundation.
I encourage you to make wild and crazy plans for 2016, but I also encourage you to lay the foundation for those plans before you blindly follow them.
15. See 2016 as the Foundation for the Rest of Your Life
At the beginning of this article I gave you the advice to see 2015 as the foundation for 2016. Now you probably ask yourself as what you should see the year 2016.
Well, seeing it as the foundation for 2017 would be too narrow-minded. The following 365 days are more than that. If you put the advice I shared with you into practice, this year can be the foundation for the rest of your life.
The foundation for a healthy, successful and very, very happy life…