During the cold winter months, it’s common for men who typically enjoy being single and dating around to find themselves longing for that special someone to spend their time with – in fact, this phenomenon is actually referred to as ‘cuffing season.’
This time is romantic and filled with holiday parties and festive activities, which increase a man’s chances of meeting someone special, but dating during the holidays can be tricky. So take some tips from me, Maria Gorokhova, Resident Dating Expert at AnastasiaDate, on how to make the best of this year’s cuffing season (and not scare your girl away!):
1) Don’t break the bank
Whether guys are buying women drinks, dinner or gifts, the holidays can get expensive. According to a recent Harris Interactive survey, commissioned by AnastasiaDate, that examined men and women’s dating habits around the holidays; men in both new and serious relationships tend to spend more than 1.5 times as much as women on gifts during the holiday season (about $255 versus $130). With this mind, it’s important for guys to be smart and not to overspend on a woman unless you’re sure that she’s really into you. Spending too much money may make you appear overeager and turn her off in the end if she thinks she needs to reciprocate, or set a precedent where she’s only interested in you for the gifts, which we don’t want!
2) Wait before you book that travel ticket
Of course, it’s exciting to break out of your normal routine and head away for the holidays, but don’t just pack up and take a trip to spend some time with a girl that you just met. The same survey referenced above revealed that two out of three U.S. adults would travel domestically to be with someone special during the holidays, and a little over a third (36 percent) of women responded that they would “not at all” travel to meet someone. Bottom line: if you’re thinking about planning a trip with someone you care about, make sure to have an extensive conversation about it first to figure out logistics – and if it’s worth the effort.
3) There’s no rush to meet friends or family
Meeting her parents and friends can be very stressful. So if you’re in a new relationship or just hanging out with a girl, it’s perfectly okay to take some time before meeting her friends and family. Interestingly, 44 percent of men in new relationships would bring a girl home to meet the parents, while only one-third of women would do the same for guys. Take your time, and don’t rush.
4) Think of More Than Just Sex
Dating perceptions during the holidays between men and women are very different, while everyone is looking to have fun, attitudes are definitely unique. For instance, men are five times more likely than women to look for a casual sexual relationship during the holiday season. So, guys, while you might be on the prowl for a hook-up, make sure whoever you’re hanging out with or seeing is on the same page as you, or else you could push her away by being over-zealous.
Ultimately guys, just play it cool when dating during the holidays. This season is about having fun, and with confidence, charm and a bit of luck, you may meet that special girl this year. If and when you do meet her, remember a few of these tips to keep a level-head which will help you have an awesome cuffing season.