With Christmas out the way, you may think the pressure from relatives to get down on one knee is over for another year, and your great aunt will finally stop asking if she needs to go hat shopping; leave it out, Mary!
However, what might be construed as ‘just a bit of banter’ by your friends, can soon send shivers down your spine, as they comment yet another ring emoji on your latest couple selfie, and the pressure begins to mount once again. All men who have been in relationships for more than 18 months can expect to be the subject of these ‘hilarious’ comments and should prepare adequately with distraction techniques.
That said, Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, and some of you may well have come to the conclusion that the girl of your dreams is already on your arm; you like it, and it’s time to put a ring on it.
But unlike Bey, you may not have a host of smooth moves hidden up your sleeve, leaving the thought of proposing to be nothing short of hellish. We’ve created a fail-proof guide to help you pop the question and do everything in your power to secure a yes from your future bride.
Step 1: Are You Sure?
The fact that you’re even reading this blog post suggests you have put some thought into this, and are taking the correct steps to ensure ultimate preparation. Whatever your circumstances, never decide on a proposal as a reaction to something, usually something you feel guilty for.
Reaction proposals will end in tears, and not the happy kinds you like to see at weddings. Be sure that you love her because of her annoying habits, not in spite of them…an annoying habit can soon turn into an uncontrollable intolerance, and nobody wants to live in silent hatred. Once that’s all out the way, continue with this blog and congratulations! You could say the hard part is already over…almost.
Step 2: Is She Sure?
Again, we’ll give our readers the benefit of the doubt and assume you are not asking someone to marry you on the fourth date – unless the first three were really, really good! Test the waters a little without blowing your cover, and ask leading questions that she can answer about the future. Note whether she says ‘if we get married’ or ‘when we get married’ – this is pretty telling of where she’s at, and whether you’ll get that all-important ‘yes’.
Step 3: Ask Her Father *IF APPROPRIATE
So, unfortunately, we can’t be of too much assistance here. This is completely up to you, a grown man, and your ability to read a situation. If her family is slightly older and show signs of following tradition, chances are, your future bride-to-be will appreciate you asking her old man, first out of respect. However, some women might find this trivial, offensive and outdated. Consider her relationship with her father and if you are really struggling, recruit a trusted best friend to ask her on the sly how she feels about the situation.
Step 4: Choose The Ring
Arguably one of the most important parts of this step-by-step guide – ring selection. Did you know that 28% of women would decline a proposal if they didn’t like the ring? Scary stuff! The lesson to be learned here is to make sure you choose a ring that proves you have considered her and her style preferences. Spend time browsing through vintage rings for sale to find the perfect precious treasure that’s brimming with character.
Life hack; vintage rings always give you a get out clause if you are unsure of her exact ring size, as it would probably need to be resized regardless. If you take nothing else from this article, please understand the importance of splashing out and spending time on finding the perfect ring. It’s likely to be one of the biggest investments of your life, and what better way than to invest in your relationship? We repeat, DO NOT SKIMP ON THE RING!
Step 5: Plan The Proposal
The planning of the proposal is going to be more complicated than organising a night out with the lads on your group chat – so you will need to dedicate an adequate amount of time to the logistics of ensuring all goes to plan. This is your chance to prove how well you know your other half, whether she would want a public affair surrounded by family and friends, or whether a secluded spot for just the two of you is the way forward. Think about the element of surprise, how important it is to you and adjust your plans accordingly, with the option of throwing a few decoy ‘marriage is a con’ statements into the mix every now and again. This is a moment you’ll both treasure for years to come – so make sure it’s remembered for all the right reasons. Remember, if you fail to plan, then plan to fail!
Follow these steps, and we’re sure that great-aunt Mary will be hat-shopping after all, you and the lads have one mega stag-do to organize and you will make the woman of your dreams one of the happiest girls on the planet! Good luck!