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 Just Like Every Other Pickup Guy…

Last night I witnessed a beautiful Israeli girl being “picked-up” by at least 4 guys all jumping to be the next in line to talk in her ear. My main purpose when interacting with a woman, is to enjoy myself, share my value, and maybe meet an interesting/sexy/nourishing person in the process, but mainly, first and foremost it’s to be already enjoying my own company.

I do not socialise so that I can ‘pickup’. I want to be relaxed and having fun with her, whether that is steaming sexual tension, or just fun and goofy behaviour.

The reason you have trouble picking up girls, is because you are embodying the dynamic of man TRYING to pick up girl. Its the same as you setting the dynamic of man being in friend-zone. You create her role for her to put you in before you even say hello.

Here’s the Truth…

Women don’t want to be ‘picked up’.

They want it to be an organic moment of serendipity, that is purposefully created via a man of integrity and confident sensitivity. She wants it to be something you have both chosen to create and build together– as it should be. Sexual attraction is tot something that you can ‘do to her’. Even if you could; she wouldn’t want it to be that way.

If your intention is to be “direct” and pick up girls…you are basically shitting all over yourself before you even interact with her. You will stink, and in most cases repulse her, and instantaneously be placed into the same bracket as every other guy out there trying to pick up some scraps.

I don’t care how “spiritual” a man thinks he is, or how much he has built himself up. Creating a pick-up paradigm is making the woman feel like a sexual target, based SOLEY on precipice of “she is superficially hot, thats all i need, i have no standards, lets approach and hand her my testicles and desperation on a plate, because fuck everyone else, i’m so direct” – This, paradoxically is weak!

“Hey, I just saw you from over there and you look so gorgeous. I had to meet you” -UGH!!!

Seriously…if you think this is being direct and refreshing…the marketing is lying to you…as most guys DO in-fact have the ability to walk over and deliver this pre-rehearsed crap.

You Have Permission to Truly Be Yourself!

Understand how many times women hear this on a daily basis. If you are unaware…then maybe first start on getting some female friends! They will let you know! At least hold yourself to a decent standard of original and nourishing creativity.

Something YOU enjoy saying.

Note that. Please, for the love of god. Some will say they choose it, but after doing this for so long, I straight up do not believe this!

Instead of all the pick-up-y-ness, why not have the intention of “wow, look at her, theres something about her i like, lets see what type of human being she is, without investing ANYTHING in her, other than the free value I already offer the world…freely, without looking for anything in return”

From that point, say whatever you want. It is everything to do with where you are coming from, not what you are verbally saying. The reason for this quick article, is to help you understand that at the beginning many guys will attach their vibe to the words they are using, assuming that this is what gets the girl….and there we are, straight back to pick-up.

What Does This Look Like in Real Life? Let’s Get Back To the Israeli Girl…

After watching these desperate guys wage their pick up attempts on her for a while, I walked over and stood shoulder to shoulder with her. I crossed my arms, she looked at me, and I said “Hopefully if i stand here long enough, they will get confused and start trying to pick me up”.(i said this, because it was an amusing thought i had, i found it funny, I do not care about her response)

She burst out laughing. I asked her how many of these dudes have already told her how amazingly beautiful she is. She rolled her eyes and said ‘everyone of them’. She turned towards me, then i said “I have my knife with me if you want to use it. I can show you how to stab properly, ive been in prison”

She got super excited and asked me to show her. At this point we were facing each other, and she was fake stabbing me in the chest, while i jokingly advised her to also twist it for added death tolls. We were close, holding hands, role playing, while all the dudes looked blank and pissed off, holding their beers against their chest, mentally rushing though their pick up notes.

I see women as my friends and allies…men in pick up choose to put themselves as the enemy. Separating themselves from femininity.

While we were role playing and laughing, I noticed she would stupidly stick her tongue out while fake stabbing me. THIS level of feminine adorableness and ridiculous stupidity melted me. “eh…stick your tongue back in your mouth you flirt…before i bite it off”…

And the Rest is History!

Hopefully you can observe the difference and ask yourself which role are you assigning yourself?

She was comfortable with me, and super happy to interact with me, which then led to being incredibly attracted to me, as what we shared was not a pre-concieved intention in my mind before meeting her…but something which we organically shared and played with together. WE created it. It became ours. Understand you are already on the girls team(unless you take on the behaviour of the enemy)…Otherwise your competing for the scraps wether you like it or not!

Underneath this way of being, Is a deep bond, and a trusting/loving relationship with my cock.

It is something I am on the verge of speaking about and sharing with you. The level of importance with regards to the relationship you have with your penis, is second to none, and is the main driving force between living a happy, relaxed, fulfilled life with an abundance of women…and Not living that way.

Understand…your penis knows much MUCH more about how to interact with women than you do. Society has spent its years disconnecting you from your cock. Your masculine essence. Your instinct, and your beauty.

It is all t0 come.

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2 COMMENTS

  1. Hey Arthur & Sean

    I decided to do pick up because of this phrase:

    “You can be great at everything – Career, Looks, Confidence & Attitude; But if you are afraid to approach the opposite sex there is just something missing.”

    That is sentence from Sean Russel in this site, from the articles “The Newbies Guide to Picking up Girls | Getting Through Week 1”

    I really wanna have the ability to approach anyone, not just women, but anyone, but of course, particularly women..
    So i don’t have any anxiety when i see a beautiful girl, cause i wanna get in there, and talk to them…

    And i measure every approach for me to keep taking action, until i master it, and the only way to master it is by picking up…

    I don’t believe in pick up lines, i’m a newbie by the way, pick up lines i think for people who is already good with approaching and talking, so they can know how to use those lines.

    But i just wanna keep it simple, from the day 1 to certain day, i just wanna beat this approach anxiety by doing simple and approaching target… So then i can escalate to talking better, more confident, more fun, etc. But this time i just wanna focus on beating the anxiety, make me comfortable and not give a FU** when approaching women.

    That’s the only way to be good with women i think, use Menprovement’s principles in the old articles, and do it my way, because some way may be effective to certain people, but not all people. I just use the basic, and do what most effective for me.

    But i see lately, Menprovement’s articles getting more into not doing pick up, just based on some men talking about Social Hierarchy and all of that stuff, we shouldn’t do this we shouldn’t do that, and i end up not doing anything, because of this confusing material that Menprovement gives, the old say this, the new one say this..

    LISTEN, all of what you say in this articles is RIGHT i think, but it needs process to do and say anything you’ve said, i can’t just do what you’ve said instantaneously, i believe it needs process to get there, please be focus on the process, you can say that but come back with the beginning process, explain that, so people like me can’t be blurred by all of Menprovement’s articles.

    Menprovement has been a source of my development in the past few months, and i always come here to see new articles and updates..

    Don’t give this confusion to readers, cause all we can do to get better is by doing the basic, thinking that it’s a number games, focusing on how to beat the anxiety in any way possible, even it’s WRONG, but the main focus is to get rid of that anxiety, so when we’re feeling comfortable, we can do the next level that is RIGHT.

    I’m in the process of improvement, but no one can get what they want in just one or two month, so instead i’m waiting to taking action until i become the person i wanna be, why not i taking action instead and doing improvement simultaneously

    Thanks Menprovement though with all of your great articles..

    • What is up Esar!

      Hey man, first thanks a lot for engaging and not only reading an article but also leaving a thoughtful genuine comment.

      As to what you said. We would never encourage you not to speak to women. What the article “NEWSFLASH: Girls Don’t Want to Be Picked Up” is referring to is simply the place it is coming from.

      If the girl you speak with feels like she’s just your self-improvement milestone, number, object on a way to a better version of yourself cause you want to practice your pick up skills, OF course she is not going to appreciate that. If she feels that this is some form of premeditated preplanned structured approach that you are deploying on her, she won’t dig that either.

      Sometimes guys at a higher level of “game” have to struggle with a problem that might be hard to imagine for some people. Namely, they are so smooth, that girls can sense that this guy have done it a lot of times already, and it will take away the uniqueness from the experience from her point of view and the way it should make her feel. Unique and special.

      This is an article about empathy and understanding that higher levels of your skill with women is heavily predicated upon your ability to empathize and not “pick them up” so to speak, but go and express yourself and spontaneously take things further.

      I guess understanding that subtle difference requires some experience under your belt and if you’re just beginning, it may simply not be relevant to you… yet.

      For where you’re at, I’d say stick to fundamentals, if what works for you right now is just sarging and “approaching” and you feel like this is the way, then that’s exactly what you should do. Every self-improvement resource has to be reconciled with your own judgement, there is a lot of information and some of it does not apply to you yet.

      World is quite a complex place and there are some paradoxes (things that are true on one level might not be true on another level), but huge part of self-improvement is understanding those paradoxes and ability to keep both of those maps in your mind without being freaked out by it.

      So in a way there is something to it when you are presented with conflicting ideas. When that happens you have to use your own judgement and let it be your compass and know that the paradox will eventually cease to be a paradox once you have enough reference experience under your belt.

      And BTW. NEWSFLASH : Approach Anxiety never goes COMPLETELY away, at least not in a way you think it will disappear… and that’s ok. But once that’s ok it’s no longer a problem, once there’s no problem there’s no reason for approach anxiety.

      Welcome to the “red pill” thinking.

      Thanks man and enjoy the journey!

      Artur Kot

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