What do you think of when you hear the phrase bucket list?
You probably think of all those countless motivational articles that you have read in which digital nomads and world travelers listed a bunch of things that you should do before you die. While I don’t think that learning a new language or climbing the Kilimanjaro are necessarily bad ideas, I am missing the personal note of a lot of bucket lists that are wandering around on the internet.
Everybody is talking about his or her politically correct bucket list ideas, but nobody has the courage to talk about the more socially unacceptable things they really want to do before they die. Learning a new language is definitely an honorable goal, but I doubt that you will say “If I had only learned Spanish” when you are about to die.
The things that really drive us and the things that make us want to cry when we think about dying without achieving them can be something simple as traveling the world, or something naughty, such as having a threesome.
The purpose of this article is not just to give you ten bucket list ideas that thousands of people have already shared with you. I want to share my personal bucket list with you and the reason why I want to do that is because I want to inspire you to think about your own bucket list, without limiting yourself to social acceptability.
Life is too short to play by their rules.
1. Do Work that Matters
As some of you may already know, I have my own business as a dating coach and writer. The reason why I founded the Global Seducer Community was pretty simple. I wanted to follow my purpose and my mission to help and inspire millions of men to date the women of their dreams and to live amazing lives.
I wanted to do work that matters.
The person who actually inspired me to do work that matters to me was a great entrepreneur and even greater man, Scott Dinsmore. The fact that he recently passed away inspired me even more to help people to do the things they love before their time is over.
If you have wasted enough time doing work that doesn’t fulfill you and in case you have worked on more than enough projects that you didn’t care about, the idea of doing work that matters has the potential to change your life.
2. Build a School in Thailand
While it is absolutely fine to have goals that focus on your own experiences and material wealth, I believe that it is a noble endeavor at least one altruistic goal on my bucket list. I spent some time thinking about what I wanted to achieve before I have to say goodbye to this wonderful world.
The first thing that came to my mind was “changing the world” and “making the world a better place”. The only problem was that I quickly realized that none of the people whose goal was to change the world actually did something. This might sound weird, but when you come to think about it, it makes total sense.
Having the goal to change the world is so vague, that you don’t know where to start. All I want to say is that you can’t be the one who saves the whales, stops the climate change and becomes the first president who isn’t corrupt. It’s simply too much.
Having a specific, clear and tangible goal is way better than having a vague perception of something that would reserve you a spot in a history book. I already have a passion for educating and inspiring people and I am in love with a Thai woman and the Thai culture. I put booth aspects together, which then resulted in my desire to build a school in Thailand.
The goal is pretty high, but it’s not unattainable. I don’t say that you should also have the goal to save enough money to build a school in Thailand. All I want to say is that if you decide to put an altruistic goal on your bucket list, you should make sure that it is specific and attainable. Otherwise, you will never even try to achieve it.
3. Settle Down With the Woman of My Dreams
I love to seduce women all around the globe, I love to experience sexual adventures in different parts of the world and I am passionate about teaching guys to do the same. However, that doesn’t mean that I don’t value relationships.
I currently have a girlfriend and even though we don’t live in the traditional monogamous relationship model that society wants us to be in, doesn’t mean that I will never settle down, start a family and live a life in which traveling the world isn’t my first priority. Just because I am not ready yet, doesn’t mean that I will never be ready for this kind of life.
One of the commandments of the Global Seducer that I share on my website says that you shouldn’t settle down before you have met the woman of your dreams. This already implies that it is okay to settle, once you have found her. Settling down with the wrong girl is one of the biggest mistakes you can make, but leaving the one who is perfect for you isn’t any better.
Maybe settling down is something that you never want to do. Maybe you dream about being the first active pick up artist who is over 70. That’s absolutely fine. Just be honest about your intentions and about what you truly want.
I am confident that I could get a few more book sales if I would hide the fact that I have a girlfriend. However, I wouldn’t be honest to you and to myself. That’s the kind of honesty you should fill your bucket list with.
4. Live Out My Deepest Fantasies
One day I will be ready to focus all my energy on one girl, but this day is yet to come. Until then I promised myself to live out every fantasy I have. I really don’t want to be one of many men who think about how it would be to have a threesome when they can’t get it up anymore.
I had threesomes, I had anal sex, I had one night stands and I even went to swinger parties. To be honest, I’ve already fulfilled every single one of my fantasies. Unless I get some new weird fetish, I can already tick this box on my bucket list.
Do you have any fantasies that you haven’t lived out yet? I am pretty sure you have. If there wouldn’t be millions of men who have never lived out their fantasies, the porn industry wouldn’t be worth billions of dollars.
There are already enough men who don’t dare to approach younger girls, because they are afraid that someone would think that they are perverts. There are also enough men who don’t dare to go to swinger parties because they are afraid that someone would judge them for their “sick” behavior.
In case dating younger girls and spending your time banging someone else’s wife with his consent is exactly what you want, you shouldn’t hesitate to write it on your bucket list. It might not be politically correct to have these fantasies, but it might lead to the experiences that make you fall asleep with a smile on your face.
5. Have Sex with a Girl from Every Continent
Now that we are already talking about sexual aspects, it is time to dig a little bit deeper. I am definitely not the only man on this planet who fantasizes about threesomes and wild sex parties. I guess I am also not the only man who fantasizes about sleeping with more than one woman.
If all those monogamous men out there would have such a fulfilling sex life they wouldn’t watch so much porn. And there wouldn’t be millions of prostitutes all around the world whose best customers are married men. I actually know a girl who works as a high class escort and she told me that 90% of her customers are married middle-aged men.
I mean, if you want to judge me for having the goal to sleep with a girl from every continent you can of course do that, but there is a high chance that you have a similar goal.
Be honest to yourself. Do you really want to leave this earth without knowing how it feels to sleep with a beautiful Asian woman and without knowing how incredible it can be to share your bed with a feisty Latina?
I know you don’t want to do that. Unfortunately, most men do.
They never overcome their fears, they never learn to seduce women and they never reach their full potential as seducers and as lovers. As a result they end up marrying the first girl who is nice enough to spread their legs for them, which eventually results in a nasty divorce and sexual frustration. The right bucket list can prevent that from happening.
6. Do a Public Speaking Event
If you want to become a truly amazing man who lives life on his own terms, leaving your comfort zone from time to time is absolutely crucial. If you stay in your comfort zone, you’ll have to wait a long time for some magic to happen. In fact, you have to wait till the last day of your life.
When it comes to leaving my comfort zone I remember countless approaches, hundreds of dates and dozens of girls who I have slept with. Until I finally pushed myself out of my comfort zone I was a frustrated virgin who thought that getting laid was impossible.
I did so many things to overcome my fears and to get comfortable in the most uncomfortable situations. Nevertheless, there is still one thing that I am terrified of. I am terrified of public speaking. I had this fear since one teacher in high school told me that I would never be able to speak in front of an audience.
When I think about talking in front of 100 people, my heart starts to beat faster than a racecar. That’s exactly why speaking at a big public event is one of my bucket list ideas that I absolutely have to achieve.
For me this is the ultimate challenge and I personally believe that you shouldn’t leave this earth without mastering something that is a huge challenge for you.
What is your challenge that you absolutely have to master before your time is up?
7. Forgive the Guy who Bullied Me the Most
I wouldn’t say that I am very good looking, but I am also not an ugly duckling. Now I can confidently say that I am not ugly, but if you would have seen me when I was 16 you would have hired me as a puppet in a ghost train.
I was skinny, had very bad acne and my hairstyle looked as if I tried to win the challenge for a Beatles double contest. I was really ugly and as you probably know from your high school days, ugly kids are the ones who get bullied the most.
It was brutal. At some point I was scared to go to school whenever I had a new pimple, which was basically every day. Even though I had really good friends who are still loyal friends today, there were a lot of kids who gave me hell. From all the kids there was one who bullied me the most.
Even though I might not see him in the next couple of years I made the decision that I will visit him one day to say something very important to him:
“I forgive you!”
He was the reason why I hated school, he was the reason why I was afraid whenever he walked past me, but he was probably also the reason why I learned to let the haters hate. Thank you bully!
I am pretty sure that you can also think about one person who caused a lot of pain and anger in your life. Maybe you agree with me that it is a good idea to forgive this person before you leave this world.
8. Live in a Hippie Commune
Now that we have talked about forgiveness, it is time for the crazy stuff. I am pretty sure that there is at least one thing that you want to experience, that everyone else would call you crazy or insane for. I know it. Everyone wants to do something that requires some outside of the box thinking and some balls to ignore the naysayers.
One thing that I absolutely have to do before I bite the dust is to live in a hippie commune for at least one month. I have already joined a hippie event in Berlin where everyone danced naked to some really weird music. I had such a great time there and I know that living with a group of hippies who love to experiment with sexuality and other things would be a once in a lifetime experience.
What is the crazy/weird/shocking thing that you want to do before you leave this earth?
Write it on your bucket list and don’t be afraid to do it.
9. Write a Book that Gets Published
Enough about living in hippie communes, it’s time to get back to serious stuff. It’s time to talk about your biggest achievement. No, I am not talking about being successful in the way that society conditions you. I am talking about what you really want to achieve.
It’s not about the car you saw in that well produced advertisement and it’s not about becoming a movie star because that’s what everyone else wants to become. It’s about what you want, nothing more and nothing less.
My dream is to become a published author and in case my writing is too offensive for the big publishing companies I want to sell at least the amount of copies that other published authors sell. I don’t want this because I am money-hungry. If it would be about the money I would write “create a product for thousands of dollars” on my bucket list and not writing a book that I sell for less than ten bucks.
The real reason why I want to write a book that gets published is because that has always been my dreams. I dream about seeing my own book in a book store since I was 12 years old. That was the age when I wrote my first short story.
In case there is something that you want to achieve you shouldn’t wait until it is too late. Do everything you can to make your dreams come true.
10. Be with My Parents When They Die
There is one last thing that I want to do that has nothing to do with my achievements, my sex life and my altruistic side. It has to do with the people who I love the most and who support me since the day I was born. Yes, I am talking about my parents.
One of the most important points on my bucket list is that I want to be there when my parents die. I don’t want to become one of the guys who misses the death of his parents because he was too busy working a job that he didn’t like to earn money he didn’t need.
I want to be with them when they leave this world. They held my hand when I was born and it is my duty to hold theirs when they die.
No matter if you think about your parents, your best friend or the one woman you are madly in love with. The Promise that you will be there for the ones you love when they need you the most is a bucket list idea you shouldn’t ignore.
A bucket list doesn’t have to be politically correct and it also doesn’t have to be full with experiences that everyone else around you wants to experience. It is okay to have weird and crazy goals that others don’t understand. It is your life, not theirs.
Write down what you truly want to experience and achieve, no matter own crazy it may sound to other people. Just make sure that you don’t forget the people who matter the most.