3 Major Conversation Mistakes Most Guys Are Making
Most guys suck at talking to women, plain and simple. Chances are you have ruined more dates and relationships by opening your mouth, than by doing anything else.
The good news is, most guys are making the same mistakes, and these mistakes are simple to identify. The bad news? Fixing them will require effort and hard work on your part. (Holy shit right?! You actually have to work at improving your love life)
In general, the mistakes that guys are making can be thrown into one of the three following categories.
1) Trying too Hard Not to Say the Wrong Thing
2) Talking Way too Much
3) Speaking Way too Fast
The Biggest Mistake of All
I’ll address each of the three in a little more detail later on, but first let me start off with the single most important rule to follow when talking to a woman:
Never…ever…ever…. EVER…try to out-talk a woman. Period.
Your role is to lead the conversation in the direction you want it to go, without doing much of the talking yourself. Your role is not to control the whole conversation, like some sort of dictator.
In conversation, especially conversation with women, less is more. As cliched as this may sound, it’s true. Women love talking about themselves, and if you let them do it, and are actively engaged, they will practically be throwing their panties at you.
Don’t be the guy who only talks about himself and how cool he is. That stuck up prick who talks about how much money he’s got, how good he is in bed, or how fast his car is to try and impress a girl.
When you’re the one doing most of the talking, it sends a crystal clear message that you are insecure in yourself and need to share everything you can in hopes of appearing “cool” enough to sleep with.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t have anything interesting to say, but always keep the conversation focused on her instead of you.
For more on this see my Complete Conversation Technique audio program.
If you let them take the spotlight, you have already won half the battle. Now, as I promised, here are the 3 major mistakes most guys are making with their tongue.
1) Trying Too Hard Not To Say The Wrong Thing
Women know when your holding something back. If you have something on your mind that you want to say, but bite your tongue for fear of looking foolish or offending someone, they will know it and you will appear insecure.
Don’t confuse saying what’s on your mind with going out of your way to offend people. Unless you want your ass kicked on a regular basis, it’s a good thing to have a filter. Just don’t be afraid to tell a funny story or share a slightly off color joke.
If a girl can’t handle your humor or personality, then she’s not going to be a good match anyways. It’s better to get this out of the way early on, then to invest time and effort into someone who will never work.
2) Talking Way Too Much
Here’s a little trick I use all the time in conversations, it’s fairly complex so you may need to reread it a couple of times before you really understand it:
Shut your fucking mouth and listen.
What this tells her (without actually telling her) is that, if she wants to continue talking to you, she needs to add to the conversation and, she better do it fast or you are outta there.
Be cool and confident, if you seem uncomfortable or if it looks like you’re just finding things to say to keep her around, she will notice it and you will immediately appear less desirable.
Don’t rush to fill in the empty space. You’ll notice after a few seconds she’ll try to scramble for something to say (even if it’s silly) in order to keep you engaged in conversation with her.
Doing this will boost your attractiveness and sexiness without you actually having to “do” anything.
3) Speaking Way Too Fast
I get a good laugh seeing guys’ “fumble n’ stumble” their words trying to fit too much in a short space of time to keep the girls attention.
What’s ironic about this is that nothing turns a woman off faster than a man who feels he has too please or attract her by talking faster than the speed of sound.
Slow it down…and let her be captivated by everything you have to say.
A conversation, especially the first one, is one of the most important parts of a relationship. If you’re like me, you’ve probably talked way to much and killed the attraction without realizing what you were doing.
However, you are now equipped with all the knowledge you need to start seeing better results in your relationships with women. Conversations are a pivotal piece of attraction and if you can master this, you will have more women than you know what to do with.
Of course, if starting and conversations is a bit “much” for you, you owe it to yourself to use my special audios to help you develop the testicular fortitude to talk to more women.