What’s up guys? I’m Sean Russell, the owner and operator of this beautiful website you are so graciously on. Hope you like everything.
I don’t often talk about myself or any of the team members here, because this site isn’t about us, it’s about you and improving your life. But, for the last year or so I personally have been deep into the world of hardcore self-improvement (mind, body, and soul) and through my story and the lesson’s I have learned, I think you can learn a lot.
It’s been 9 months since I started MenProvement.com, and at 5,000 visitors a day and over 600 subscribers, the team and I couldn’t be happier.
Long story short, my life has been pretty crazy since starting serious self-improvement & many entrepreneurial ventures. It got really crazy when I started this site. For the previous year and a half, I have been working full-time at a 9-5 job as a mechanical engineer. I was playing semi-pro soccer, traveling around, even to Europe, to try to play pro soccer. And during this time I was building multiple online businesses and websites in an attempt to break free from corporate chains if soccer didn’t pan out.
Well, soccer didn’t pan out.
So here I am. No regrets.
For anyone who is reading this that works a job they don’t love, longs for personal freedom or financial gain, this article is for you. You have to read it before you start your journey because my lessons (and mistakes) are going to help you make it through.
Many people attempt this kind of thing, but many people give up within the first 9 months.
This article is for the people who want to start changing their lives. Maybe it’s just general self-improvement or maybe you want to start a business. Regardless, these lessons will help you succeed and help you understand them when you get there.
So here are 9 lessons I have learned from diving deep into self-improvement and busting my ass for the last 9 months. Enjoy.
1) Anyone can achieve anything
If there is one thing I have learned in the last 9 months, it’s that any single human being can achieve anything they set their mind to.
It sounds cliché, but it’s true.
I learned this through learning and listening to hundreds of podcasts, reading hundreds of stories and books and listening to copious amounts of YouTube videos. The things people can do, no matter how low of a place they come from, are limitless.
You can do anything you want.
It may not happen this year. It may take 5. But if you start to dedicate yourself and your life to it every day, you will get there, no doubt.
2) Attitude is everything
Flowing from lesson 1, anyone can achieve anything, but it is only possible with the right attitude. I’ll start with this quote because I love it.
[quote]“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” – Thomas Jefferson[/quote]
1) Whether you want to believe it or not, your thoughts affect you, your body & the world around you. It’s a proven FACT.
2) What you put out into the world, via your thoughts, you get back.
If you dwell all day on negativity, “I can’t”, I don’t” then you are only enforcing these truths.
Have your goal, write it down, and align your thoughts and actions with this goal. Any in-congruence will result in you not reaching your goal.
1) You have to believe you can do it.
2) You have to visualize and act as if it already is.
3) You need to eliminate all negative thought patterns towards that goal and quite frankly anything else.
Do this, and also align your actions (hard work) towards your goal, then you will succeed. Maybe in a month. Maybe in 5 years. You will get there.
For more on this check out this article on the power of belief. It’s a game changer.
3) Just start somewhere
This is the best lesson you are going to get in this article.
If you want to do something, w.e it is, just start somewhere. Today.
If you want to start an online business, go register a domain name & then come back and read the rest of this article.
Starting is huge!
Do you think I started with menprovement.com the way it is? No way.
My first website was horrible. So bad. I was so amped and eager and thought it was going to make me tons of money, but it was a joke.
But it taught me SO much.
I learned about websites, I learned WordPress & I learned what not to do. Mistakes are your best friend because they help you grow twice as fast as any achievements.
So many people have an idea and they sit around brainstorming and thinking for years. Waiting for it to be perfect in their head. Waiting for the right website name to pop into their head. Time wasted.
If you want to do something. Just start. Chances are your venture will NOT be your winner. I promise you that. But you have to burn through that first one to gain experience and skill. Go start.
4) There is no get rich quick scheme
Ever ask yourself why does spam exist?
I say it all the time, who the f*$k is stupid enough to respond to one of these ridiculous spam emails telling me I have $1,000,000 waiting for me in a bank in London or they just discovered the new system to making $2,000 a day while you sleep?
The answer: People.
Those emails wouldn’t be there if people didn’t answer them. Everyone is looking for a get rich scheme, and this is exactly what is stopping them from getting rich.
Get rich schemes will do one thing. Waste months of your life. Time that could have been used building something solid.
And some people make a few bucks. They do. But how long does it last until the whole pyramid crumbles and they are left starting from the bottom again. Who wants to do that?
Don’t let it happen to you.
The only way to get rich is to serve. Provide service that people want or need and you will get rich.
And it takes time. Time to learn, time to network, time to grow. There are no shortcuts.
5) Focus on providing value
Since get rich quick schemes do not provide value to anyone, they don’t work.
They gold is in the value.
Paraphrasing from ideas I picked up from James Altucher, stop focusing on making money and start focusing on how you can provide awesome value.
Do you think the guys from Google sat down in a room and said, okay guys how can we make tons of money? No. They sat down and said hey guys how can we create the most incredible & valuable search engine known to man. And they did.
They created their value. I don’t think they have to try very hard to create money.
The biggest mistake people make is to focus only on the money. It may seem counter intuitive, because yes, we all do the things we do to make money and wealth. But starting a website and focusing solely on money will bring you a website that is just like the other 1,000,000 out there that offer nothing to people and just try to sell shitty Books or bad advice. They don’t work, which is why 1,000’s of people give up on internet based businesses every month.
I get emails every month from people asking me for advice on how to make more money on their site. But I go to their site and it is abysmal.
If you focus on building a blog that provides ridiculous value to people’s lives, the money will flow to you. Effortlessly. For that reason, I don’t recommend even attempting to monetize your blog for the first year. You are wasting time.
I didn’t attempt to monetize MenProvement for the first 9 months, but money found it’s way in every month. And I know the more we build this and give stuff for free to men, stuff that can actually improve their lives, the more money that will flow in effortlessly.
Whatever you want to do. Find a way to provide incredible value to people, and the money will find a way into your pocket.
6) You may lose some friends
Building a life of someone that people look up to is weird.
It goes against the current of life and most people just don’t connect to it at all. Staying in nights to work on stuff and getting off the perpetual treadmill on midweek working/weekend binge drinking is not the norm.
But if you don’t want to be “normal”, you can’t live like a “normal” person.
They say entrepreneurs live for years like other won’t so that they can one day live like others can’t. And it’s true.
7) Burnout is not fun
Working hard is one thing. Working too hard is dangerous.
My motivation doesn’t have an off switch. I’m not quite sure how it developed this way, maybe through being a soccer player my whole life. Having that stripped away left me with a high drive and nothing but my work to apply it to.
But sometimes, I go too hard. Working 9-5 on a computer all day, only to come home and work 4 hours on a website all day and then drive an hour of soccer practice and back, and repeat, doesn’t work out over a long period of time.
I burnt-out, twice.
I even wrote a crazy informative article on how to recover from burnout. I highly recommend it.
The first time I burnt out I had a panic attack and ended up with shingles. The second time I almost had to quit work early and my eye was twitching for two months.
It’s really not fun, and not smart.
Read the article above, it also shows you how to prevent getting burnout in the first place. You’ll thank me later.
8) People are clueless
When you enter the rabbit hole of dedicated self-improvement, you really start to notice how messed up everything is & how clueless people are.
1) People are in such ”blissful” ignorance of fast food and what the media tells them is “healthy”, that it will begin to disgust you. They have no idea what they are putting into their bodies and half the information was given to them is completely false. “Cholesterol is bad, high carb low-fat diets are good.” It’s moronic advice but to the average folk, you are the idiot when you break out of these social norms. It can be frustrating. Don’t compare yourself to others, but knowledge is power.
2) Nobody understands the fact that you can shape your reality however you want. When you become more positive and start to see the results of attitude change, intention & the law of attraction, just hearing someone walk into the office and sarcastically say “another day in paradise,” makes you want to cringe.
A lot of people are miserable. And they have no idea why. They are bombarded with negativity all day long, shown horror on the news and led to believe the only way to achieve wealth is to bust your ass for someone else for 40 years and hopefully have it when you’re 60. It’s insanity and it’s not true.
You won’t see me holding a picket sign protesting the government anytime soon, but step back and unplug.
9) There is no stopping point
I always imagined becoming this person who was complete, “whole.” But now I am not so sure that person exists.
I know who I want to be in 5 years, and I visualize it daily, but what’s gonna happen when I get there? There will just be another future, better, version of myself to envision.
There is no stopping point, there is only being better than who you were yesterday and enjoying each day as it comes. If you keep waiting to enjoy your life once you become to the person you want to be, you may never stop striving and never get to enjoy your life at all. Enjoy it now, enjoy the journey. And when you have achieved your main goals, enjoy it even more and keep looking forward.
One day I will be an old man relaxing on my porch, filled with contentedness. But until then, I will keep taking time to smell the roses.
These lessons have made me a much better person. I encourage you to go out, strive for greatness and learn your own. Swim against the current for a while. You’ll be surprised who you become. But don’t forget to enjoy each day until you get there, because often the journey is the best part.
– Sean Russell
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