Success does not come easy, and you have a lot of negative traits holding you back. Lose these 5 self-sabotaging behaviours and get the success you want.
Regret is poison to your mind.
No matter what type of regret it is, whether its something you have been holding on to for years or its hindsight from a decision you made 20 seconds ago, it is holding you back and is nothing but negative.
I personally struggled with regret for many years. See, I could have played professional soccer at the age of 18 in England but decided to go to school. Now, I have no soccer career and my lifelong dream of playing pro in front of my family has gone.
I sat with this regret for years. It made me depressed, resentful and took any quality of life I could have had at that present time away. I personally know how hard letting go of regret can be.
But you can let go of regret. I did. When you hold on to that regret not only do you regret that past decision or event but you also comprise the very time you are currently in. Any chance of happiness that you can have right now is being sucked away by something that happened in the past and you cannot change. You need to accept that you cannot change the past and you need to look forward.
Letting go of my regret was difficult. I often imagined where I would have been and what I would have been doing, and how great my life could have been.
The first step was to stop doing that. Stop the thought process as soon as it starts. Don’t imagine how your life could be but instead imagine how it is going to be. Yes, you may have made mistakes, but who knows what could have happened. Things may not have turned out like you think.
A great quote that sums it up is
[quote]”You never know what worse luck your bad luck has saved you from”[/quote]
These words are so true. There is no way to know what would have happened and your life is here, now. You need to live in the present moment and keep dissipating thoughts of the past as they come up.
Imagine them poofing into smoke and then instead of saying “oh I could have done this or been this,” say “I am here now and what can I do to make my current life better.” It is amazing how this will transform you.
This is great to do in situations where you see a hot girl and bitch out, instead of talking to her. Most people will start the regret loop of oh I missed my chance, I could be talking to her and maybe ended up being with her.
When you feel that start to happen you can instantly dissipate it. Tell yourself, “oh well I missed that chance how can I avoid that next time and what can I do now.” This will correlate with every part of your life.
Stay in the present moment, stop living in the past, and start creating a better future.
How to Take Control of Your Thoughts and Avoid Regret
Be unapologetic. And no I do not mean don’t say sorry to someone if you step on their shoe or crash their car. But instead, I mean, stand by your decisions you make and do not feel bad for making them.
Do not apologize for doing what you want to do. If you feel the need to apologize or feel bad for doing or saying something, then you subconsciously did not want to do it in the first place.
But if you do or say something because it is truly how you feel and you wanted to say it, don’t ever feel bad or apologize for it. Feeling bad is just another form of regret and is a negative emotion. It promotes negative energy and should be avoided at all times.
Your opinions are your opinions and if they are truly how you feel than stand by them. Chances are you are not an asshole, but if you were and every time you said some asshole statement to someone you felt bad about it you would eat yourself alive.
Assholes don’t feel bad for saying what they want. They tell people how it is without an apology. So be yourself and if you are in fact an asshole, then be an asshole. But chances are you are like me and you are a good guy and you do not go around insulting people.
Hesitation will stop you in your tracks, literally. If you hesitate can affect every part of your life in a negative way.
I have always been a hesitant person throughout my life and until recently I never did anything about it. It got me nowhere. Every day I take steps to stop my hesitation. I have learned to recognize and feel it.
Now when I feel it I do whatever is causing that hesitant feeling immediately. When I want to talk to my boss about money and I feel that hesitation come in, I get up and do it right then.
When I’m out talking to women and I feel that hesitation to walk up to her I make sure I do it. Eventually, that feeling will be gone completely. But if you don’t take steps to rid yourself of it, you will continue to hesitate, over think, and miss the life-changing opportunities.
So when you see a girl in a bar you want to talk to, just do it. If you want a promotion, just demand one.
Don’t hesitate. Because we all know the old saying, ” He who hesitates, masturbates.”
Don’t fear anything. My whole life I have had anxieties. I feared death, disease, and all sorts of shit. Fear clouds your mind and takes up space where courage and great ideas should be.
I have been taking steps to ending my fears completely and If I die then I die. You can only control what I can control. I eat good, I have a healthy lifestyle, and I stay positive. The rest is out of my control and should be out of my head.
Since clearing my mind of anxieties and fear I come up with incredible ideas all the time. I have created this website and I have more positive thoughts and experiences in my life.
Fear is not real, it is a choice and you can choose to not partake.
6 Ways to Conquer Your Fears
Never doubt yourself. You can do anything you want in this life. The only thing doubt is going to do is hold you back from the things you doubt you can do.
Its simple, lose all doubt, be fully confident that you will succeed, and you will succeed. What you believe becomes your reality. When you fill yourself with positive thoughts and self-beliefs, incredible things will happen.
8 Ways to Conquer Self Doubt
If you rid yourself of these 5 traits the sky’s the limit.
This is not going to happen overnight so be patient. Change takes time. Work at it day by day, every day and make small changes each week. You will see progress and before you know it you will be where you want to be.
How fast does a year go by? How fast did college go by? Imagine if in those 4 years you implemented daily changes to rid yourself of negative traits and make your life better. After those 4 years, your would be incredible. Just start today and stay with it.