booty call

All men come to a point in their life where they do not want commitment; they just want a booty call.

Sometimes you may find that you wish you had a consistent chick that you can call, or better yet, that calls you. In addition, she is only calling for a quick wham, bam, thank you mam! Then she will be on her merry way and so will you!

The key to attaining this girl is being memorable during that first night together. There are some key steps that you should be aware of when attempting this, as well as some advice on how to catch her eye and be charming and most importantly, advice on how to please her.

In this article I am going to go over the three key steps to having a booty call.

1) I am going to teach you how to pick up and meet a girl to bring home.

2) I am going to teach you how to dominate that girl in bed so she will want to keep coming back for more.

3) I am going to teach you how to make it clear that you are both on the same page so your booty call stay true and drama free.

This way, on a lonely Thursday night, watching law and order won’t be the only thing you have to do.

Finding a booty call: Foreword

Before you go looking for a booty call, there is one important things you should understand.

Most women you find in the bar are also looking to be laid. 

Knowing that these women purely want sex just like you, you want them to come back to you repeatedly, and you will want her to jump at the occasion to sleep with you. You want her to be running your sexual encounter through her head constantly and be begging for more.

This means you need to know what a woman looks for physically, so you catch her eye immediately and she wants you from the start. Then, after you get a bite, you need to know how to reel her in and take her home.

Once you bring her home, you’ve got to know how to make her feel special before you get to ravaging her and you want to be careful to not give off the air that you do this all the time. Girls will still think you are skeevy because you sleep around. If she thinks you are a man-whore, it WILL turn her OFF and that is NOT what you want.

This also goes along with not wanting to be overtly show off-y or cocky. Yes, you DO want to display confidence, but you should read the definitions of the two words, really understand it and then commit it to memory.

Understanding this will make the steps to finding an ongoing booty call much easier.

Part 1: Meeting your future booty call

Part one of finding a successful long term booty call involves meeting your new partner in crime. Chances are if you don’t already have a booty call, then you don’t have a girl in your circle that’s ever going to be one. You are going to have to go out and meet your new sexual companion, and part one is going to tell you exactly how to do that.

1) Get your head right

There are so many things to consider when heading out the door for a night out. It can become overwhelming if you really actually stop to think about it. If you want to find a successful booty call, you have to get your head right, and understanding these two key concepts is the fastest way to get there.

a) Lose the performance issues

Men have “performance” problems because of the expectations that they believe women have. Watching porn does not help this problem. BTW, this site has a phenomenal article about the effects of porn and this “little” problem was addressed. READ IT!

Nor do your friends all saying how large their dick is, when in reality, they are probably smaller than you think.

Also, most people act as if they are laid a lot more often than they do. You may find yourself thinking something is wrong with you because you are not getting as much play as your friend, when in reality, he is not getting any either.

People who show off and are cocky are usually insecure. Remember this so that you do not do it and make other people think you are cocky or arrogant.

b) Understand she feels the same as you

Now you do have to impress her, of course and we do have expectations but they are no more outrageous then your expectations can be.

When you go out you need to remember they are in the limelight, just like you. You are going to be looking at her in the same way she is looking at you; you’re both thinking, “Can they tell how nervous I am?”

Yeah, not what you thought I was going to say, huh? Women are just as nervous as you are; we usually hide it better under all our makeup and clothes.

It is all a game, as much as it should not be, it is a game, especially if you’re choosing to use the bar scene for dating and hook-ups.

Wrap your head around these points. If you can lose any psychological self doubt and self consciousness, and understand that shes in the same boat a you, its going to take you miles in the huge ocean that is the dating scene.

2) Perfect your outer appearance

well dressed man

Everyone is looking for that hot chick or hot guy to bring home and brag about. We spend hours, well maybe two, getting ready before we go out. Put some effort into your appearance and you will be surprised the options it opens up for you.

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Level the playing field.

Below are some tips to use to level the playing field appearance wise, body language pointers, and erogenous zones to use to turn her on like no other.

a) Body Language is CRUCIAL!

Watch your body language; it is the FIRST thing people notice about you. Your demeanor, posture, and the way you hold yourself can turn people away before you even get a word in. It literally can make or break you.

If you seem shy and timid, girls will not approach you because you are mousy; they want a man, someone who can pick them up and ravage them, not some wimpy guy who screams when he sees a spider.

On the other hand, if you come off too masculine, too cocky or arrogant, she will not want you either; a happy medium needs to be found. You need to do small masculine gestures, mixed with big emotional and romantic gestures. You show her you are a man while at the same time showing her you have a big heart and are sensitive. You also need to appear “open and available,” so that she feels like she can approach you without being turned away.

Yes, you may attract some women who you may not have chosen yourself, but you may be surprised how good she is in bed. = ) Here are some body language and posture tips, so you can convey this medium when with women.

  • Watch for insecure body language.

– Watch for insecure body language such as fidgeting, this could be with your clothes, hair, cellphone, drink, anything that you seem to be paying more attention to than her.

 – Rid yourself of indecisiveness, this means not knowing where to sit, what to order, where to go on a date or making any sort of decision.

 – make sure you’re not slumped over, stand tall and hold your head high; show confidence in your stride. Women look for men who are confident and who are at a higher emotional and career level than they are. They want someone who is sure of themselves and you want to convey this in how you carry yourself.

  • Use your touch

-Enter into her personal space by touching her gently. You can see if she is receptive to this by touching an item of clothing or jewelry, telling her you like it or that she looks nice in it. If she blushes, giggles, touches you back or anything like this, odds are she likes this affection and you can use this to turn her on.

-From here, you can go to caressing her neck, touching her lower back, maybe whispering in her ear, or kissing her cheek.

-Take it slow at first though, so you do not come on too strong. Doing this will also display the confidence you want her to notice.

  • Be approachable

-Many people, myself included, tend to stand with their arms folded over their chest. Body language experts say this is a sign of someone being closed to communication. Remember this when you are at the bar or wherever you may be. Because I cross my own arms and I know I am an open person, I would still approach someone with crossed arms, unless of course there were other clues saying they are really closed for business. Just keep in mind that some other people may not approach you because of this.

-Stand arms at your side or maybe a drink in one hand and the other out. It’s up to you how your comfortable standing. Try it out at home and see how else you can stand without crossing your arms or being super fidgety.

-For more bodylanguage tips, check out this awesome TED talk.

b) Dress attire and Hairstyles

Your outer appearance is strongly determined by your dress style and hairstyle. You may not be the greatest looking man on the planet. But you can still find a booty call is you can dress yourself correctly and have a clean hairstyle. Below are some key tips to fix your dress attire and facial appearance so your booty call will basically come to you.

  • Dress with confidence 

Dress with confidence. Show your personality. Wear a suit blazer over a funky t-shirt with a pair of jeans. You could even go as far as to wear a suit when you go out, but maybe wear red dress shoes with your black suit. This of course would not go well in a casual setting, but I think you get the point.

Remember that making certain clothing choices can say many things about you, as well as draw attention from women that you do not really want.

If you go out looking like a shlubb, 1- no one will look twice at you and 2- the ones that do are just going to be shlubbs as well and I assure you, you do not want that. Take my word for it. Dress to impress, Gentlemen!

WHY IT WORKS: Doing little things like this draws attention to you, showing others that you have confidence in yourself. Usually people who dress a little louder than others are more out-going. These little shows of, flare, if you would, catches the eye and immediately intrigues the viewer. Only of course, if what is being shown off is of your taste.

  • Find a great hairstyle

Look up hairstyles for men your age, face shape and hair length. If you are older, look for hairstyles for people only a FEW years younger than you do. Do not go too young because you will just look ridiculous. Maybe try spiking your hair or changing your haircut.

WHY IT WORKS: while women do want manly-men, we also want a man who is sexy. Hair is part of that sex appeal. You know the magazines that talk about which man is now growing a beard or recently shaved and is now sporting a baby-faced look. Or which stars cut their once beautiful long hair, or who got extensions. Whether we pay attention to it ourselves all the time, other people do pay attention to it. Girls want to run their fingers through your sexy mop, so make it look sexy before you head out!

  • Keep your glasses

For those of you who wear glasses and think it is unattractive, you are a complete moron.

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Look at some Hollister and Abercrombie and Fitch models, they are wearing those big Ray Ban style, black rimmed glasses and they still look sexy. You just have to change the rest of what you are wearing to be able to pull it off.

Look up some different clothing options that look good with these glasses. If you look sharp, you will feel sharp. If you feel sharp, you will be sharp. It is true. When you put something on and get ready and it makes you feel good, you become confident. This confidence radiates through and is what gets you women.

WHY IT WORKS: They say, “The eyes are the window to the soul,” so, this being true, don’t you want to draw attention to it? Wearing glasses is not always a bad thing. If you are fitted for glasses and actually set out to spend the time getting a pair that compliment and accentuate your strong cheekbones, for instance, then you have found a new accessory that is practical and makes you look sexy. You know the sexy librarians look. Well we think you guys look hot in glasses too. Use it your advantage.

Perfecting your outer appearance is half the battle. The other, perfecting your body language and how you feel about yourself. Does that mean looking like Brad Pitt? No. It just means displaying yourself to the world as the strong, confident man that you are.

3) Get her to come home with you

Guy’s, as much as you may believe it to be so, its not rocket science getting a girl to come home with you. I could go on for 3,000 word on this or yu could just check out my last article on the do’s and don’t of approaching a girl in a bar.

Part 1 Recap:

**Remember: This is a “Should we have Sex” Interview and you need to be hired, just as she does. Think about what you look at when you meet someone. Do you automatically start looking at her ass, or her eyes? Her legs or her arms? Do you notice her hair or smile?

Looking at what you look for in a girl, can help you figure out what parts of yourself you may want to play up, or even play down. You may think of something that you never really thought of.

Girls look at a lot of the same thing guys do. We notice if you have a nice butt, or arms, if your smile is nice or you have nice eyes and hair. We look at it all.

If you are not the most confident person, that is okay too. No one knows you are uncomfortable unless you act that way. If you act confident, people will think you are confident. Pretend you are in a performance and you have to be that sexy, mysterious man every women yearns for. Nevertheless, you must remember to keep your own self in there and grounded too!

Now for the fun, sexy stuff….

Part 2: Pleasing your booty call.

solidifying the bootycall

So you’ve met your future booty call and successfully got her back to your place. Great! But shes not your booty call yet! If you want her to be coming back for more you’ve got to show her a time she will never forget.

Below I have outlines the steps to making your booty call melt and to make her sexually addicted to you.

1) Understanding the erogenous zones

The erogenous zones on a woman are the areas of the body that are extra sensitive and will turn her on more than other areas typically would. The key to being a memorable one-night stand, is knowing these areas in order to utilize them to the best of your ability to leave her mind reeling afterward. As explained above, you want her mind to be left spinning afterward, so that she is calling you wanting more. A few nights out at the bar, can leave you with a consistent booty call, who actually calls YOU to initiate the sexy time. And it is all because you read this article and the applied the advice. That is all it takes; reading this article and just applying what you take out of it.

  • The ears – touching her ears, nibbling on them and blowing softly into her ears, are all ways
  • The neck – kissing her at the nape of the neck. For those those of you whp arent sure where this is, it is the spot right where her spine connects to her skull. Kissing this area and sicking lightly can be a huge turn on to women or even men.
  • The hands and wrists – massaging her hands and working your way up her arm and kissing the inside part of her wrist is very sensual and will send goosebumps up her body.
  • Her brain – as lame as this sounds, and believe me, I know it does, its true. Talking to her about her interests and complimenting her, making her feel good, are all ways to turn her on. Sweet talk her, turn that charm on. Dirty talk her too, if you can gauge how she’ll react. If she seems receptive  to it, then ease into it. Theres a very fine line between dirty talk and being a creep. Don’t cross that line.
  • Her feet – massaging, kissing, licking for some people can be huge turn ons when it comes to the feet. When you slide her shoes off or if you’re cuddling on the couch, take her feet in your hands and massage them. Run your hands up her leg and throw in some kissing, working your way up. This should send waves of heat through her body, turning her and making her squirm with delight or because shes ticklish. Be careful in that sense, she may not like it because she is super sensitive to tickling, in which case I’d say maybe stay cleat of this one. You may end up kicked in the face, on accident of course…40 Year Old Virgin, anyone?
  • The inner thighs and legs – rubbing, massaging, softly gliding your fingers along her skin, all send goosebumps across her body.
  • Her Stomach – as with so many of these areas, gently rubbing your hands, fingers or tongue along her panty line, right below her stomach can be a huge turn on. Kissing and licking her stomach has the same intense effect. It’s a tease, we’re waiting for you to keep going south into our panties but when you don’t, we just want it more.
  • The butt – yes, her butt. Many women really do like to have their but spanked and squeezed. Mild spanking and playing with the butt can be a huge turn on to women. It has got that little bit of roughness to it that turns us on. Some women even like to have their anus played with. Watch it though; this can be a touchy area for some people. So ease into anything other than playful squeezes.
  • Behind her knees – this area has so many nerve endings and can be used wisely to turn your women on. Licking and nibbling are good, so long as you do not overdo it and you easily can because they are is so sensitive. This can also be a ticklish area on her body, so be careful when using this approach. Use this along with other techniques so the touching does not become annoying doing the same thing repeatedly.
  • Her vagina – Well Duh! You say, I mean really use it. Find her g-spot. It is different for everyone but it is usually right inside the vagina. There are many good sites on the web that show diagrams on how to find it. You can use this to make her squirt and I guarantee she will never forget you then.
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You have to remember you want to keep her interested.

There are many places on the female body you can use to turn her on. So use them. All. You should be able to gauge by her reactions what she likes most. Use these more often but still change it up, especially when using ultra-sensitive areas. Nibbling and licking can become tiresome and actually begin to hurt if they are used continuously.

As I am sure, most of you have done this before, you now just need to add in some extra techniques and you will have her reeling. Make sure she feels good, not just you. It is not just about you and that is the problem most guys have; they do not pay attention to whether we are satisfied or not. Pay attention to this and she will be calling you, as well as being nicer to you.

*Extra credit: Learn how to give a proper sensual massage. It will be highly beneficial to the both of you.

Part 3: Solidifying the booty call 

So you have met a nice girl, you’ve displayed great body language, said the right things, and closed the deal. You brought her home and gave her the time of her life.

Do you have yourself a full-time booty call? Not yet. A booty call is only a booty call if you both know it!

The last thing you want is a girl to be wrapped up on you, thinking that your exclusive, when all you want is sex?

How to avoid this:

Be honest.

It’s as simple as that.

Don’t lead her on with false intentions. If this girl wants a relationship, then its not the right girl for your booty call. And that’s that.

Tell her immediately that you are not at a point in your life where you want a serious relationship and that you are just looking for a little fun. Chances are she is in the same spot!

Nothing is messier than messing with a girl who wants a relationship when you have no interest. It never ends well for both parties.

Finding a booty call: Recap

Women have needs, just as men do.

Show confidence when you go out by dressing to impress. Remember that when you look good, it will make you feel good and that really does change how you approach the world.

That is some of the best advice I can give you.

Why do you think women wear makeup? It makes us feel prettier and good about ourselves. As a guy, you can do the same thing and it will have the same effect on you and your behavior.

Make sure your confidence does not come through as cockiness. Do not continuously talk about yourself. Ask questions about her life; what does she like? Does she have pets? Work? College? Interest? Get her out on the dance floor and start to use some of these moves like being touchy feely and talking dirty. You can find out a lot about a person that way.

Do not get piss drunk while trying to approach women and be careful not to bring a chick who is too intoxicated home. This could lead to expulsions of stomach contents on furniture in your home or possibly in your car. Or lead to other drama the morning after that you do not want. All in all please the women and keep her needs a little bit ahead of yours and she will be coming back for more.

Good luck and Good dating!

Jane Vineyard

jvinyard3197@outlook.com

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2 COMMENTS

  1. “Be approachable.” That’s the single biggest problem in all this: WOMEN ARE FREAKIN’ UNAPPROACHABLE!!! And they wear their anti-male hostility like a badge of honor.

    WHAT A FREAKIN CROCK!!! How much did they pay you to spew this FRAUD???

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